To hate hearing the word SUPPER

[newnameoldme]

Even at my ripe old age I don't know exactly when or what it refers to.

It makes me cringe at the pretentiousness whenever I hear it used. Only slightly less if elderly posh person!

www.tatler.com/news/articles/september-2012/the-great-british-country-supper
Quite funny

I had a sort of posh friend who said supper a lot, and I'm from the sort of place where dinner is lunch and tea is dinner. Anyway, she knew my DP for a long time, and I bumped into her in the street and I got invited for "supper" on the spot if I helped unload her 30 bags of shopping from the car and carry one of her boys up a massive driveway. I got quite excited because I was quite young at the time and she was posh and supper was a way exotic concept for me.

You know what I got? Pasta and pesto. No cheese. It was fucking shit and I felt a bit let down because it was no better than the tea I missed to go to the supper. Totally taken advantage of with this pretentious supper bullshit. YADNBU

YABU. I love the word. It reminds me of my grandad who would prepare supper...sometimes a wee basket of chips and a fried egg or something.
My mum now says the word and it makes me happy :D

Ha ha ha! My very posh old boss has a really tiny mouth and he used to refer to supper which sounded like 'super' and my very worst was when he'd ask my to provide drinks and nibbles, which sounded like 'nipples'! It was a bit like the 'Princess Diana' game in Peter Kay's 'Car Share' so, in summary, YA probably BU but I get it!

It makes me cringe at the pretentiousness whenever I hear it used. Only slightly less if elderly posh person!

YABU

It's the word most people I know use to refer to the family evening meal . If we go out, or have people over, it's 'dinner.'

But this is a class thing and the OP is stealth bashing.

Pallisers, that takes me back. As an older child we would have a tea tray in front of the 9 pm news with a piece of toast if we fancied it or crackers or cake if there was some. It was nice and I keep meaning to revive it as a thing.

People who hate the word 'supper' should get out less.

I'm a Northerner and I've always said "dinner" and not "tea". Supper to me is either a very late dinner or something children have before they go to bed.

The irony is that supper has working class roots - it was the hard manual workers not getting in from work until 9-10pm who originally ate supper, with the middle class eating at a more reasonable hour.

I bloody hate reverse snobbery...

I don't know why I click on these threads.

it's just a word. unless it's loaded up with your narrow, stupid class based assumptions it can't hurt you.

and if you loathe it so much that it "makes your teeth itch" then you're probably being a dick.

I hate it too, in the snobby/ southern upper-middle-class (but I think twee) variant of "will you join us for supper?" Or "family supper," when what is really meant is a normal, non-fancy dinner.

In other contexts, like a late snack before bed, I think it's fine!

I'm a middle class southerner, and yes I say supper not dinner. I'm not a snob though.

Just to add to the confusion DS' godparents called the drink and biscuits before bed 'supper'. When DS went to stay there I was asked what DS liked for supper and I said 'Don't worry, he will already have eaten' and his DGM said 'DGF likes cocoa for his and I have Horlicks'.

no stealth bashing, or reverse snobbery, I asked for a mumsnet opinion AIBU to loathe hearing supper thrown about like it's perfectly natural and I think the majority agree it's a nonsense

Breakfast, lunch, tea
(But I live in Yorkshire)
Agree supper is a snack before bedtime

i'm amazed by the number of people eating breakfast cereals in the evening though! I really had no idea!

I asked for a mumsnet opinion AIBU to loathe hearing supper thrown about like it's perfectly natural and I think the majority agree it's a nonsense

Well actually many posters have said the thread was a nonsense.

It is perfectly natural to whole reams of people as you can see by the responses.

derxa this made me giggle thanks 'Circulating Hampshire is a single scented candle that has been passed between hosts and guests for decades.'

Cricket I had a big LOL the first time DH tried my grandmother's sweet tea! Bless him, he politely declines all the time now, when we visit.

Cricket not Cricket!

The irony is that supper has working class roots - it was the hard manual workers not getting in from work until 9-10pm who originally ate supper, with the middle class eating at a more reasonable hour.

I bloody hate reverse snobbery...

So the middle class hijacked a working class word, and that wasn't reverse snobbery?

Agree. I know two people ,(SILS) who use this word and they are both pretentious bores who also say 'weep' instead of 'cry'. Now that's the stuff of itchy teeth.

Supper would be a bit of toast or biscuit and milk before bed when I was little. My husband (Yorkshire) sometimes refers to dinner/tea as supper and it sets my teeth on edge. Right up there with the word 'gusset'.

If I told you that I hate people saying "tea" for an evening meal, because tea should be afternoon tea with cucumber sandwiches, then you'd say that was snobbish, wouldn't you? So saying you hate people saying "supper" (when it's perfectly natural for those people and they've always called it that) is reverse snobbery. In fact it's practically the definition of reverse snobbery!

I don't like it either. The actual sound of the word. Don't like the word 'sup' either.

I am a southerner but growing up, we had breakfast, dinner and tea. Dinner was usually a cooked meal (family meals at the weekend, school dinners in the week) and tea was a cold meal of bread, cheese, tomatoes etc. (Supper was a snack before bed if needed). At some point in the early 90s, we transitioned into having cold meals at lunchtime and hot meals in the evening, but we still called them dinner and tea respectively.

I had a friend who called her evening meal supper and who was vair posh. I was confused the first time I was invited there for supper as I was worried that it would be very late and I'm normally in my pyjamas when I eat supper!

Nowadays I call the midday meal lunch(whether cold or hot) and the evening meal dinner. (Unless it's a cold meal/sandwiches etc, in which case it's tea!)