To hate hearing the word SUPPER

[newnameoldme]

Even at my ripe old age I don't know exactly when or what it refers to.

It makes me cringe at the pretentiousness whenever I hear it used. Only slightly less if elderly posh person!

YABU. It's a late evening meal.

Well don't come to my house then! We eat breakfast, lunch and supper like the snobby Canucks we are!

Better than 'sups' I suppose

I don't know exactly when or what it refers to

Doesn't that say more about you rather than other peoples' 'pretentiousness'?

How rude!

This really made me laugh. Supper pretentious 😂 Agree though SUPs is awful

YABU.

I'm from the most working class family in the world, ever, and we've always called the last meal of the day 'supper'.

Sorry, supper for the evening meal here too...

My dc like to eat small portions frequently so we often have supper. Surely it's just a small post-dinner pre-bedtime meal?

I don't think it's pretentious if that's what you naturally call it. But when I was made fun of at (private) school for calling the main meal at 6.30 'tea' instead of 'supper' ('tea' was toast and cups of tea at 4pm there), I happily explained how anyone in the top half of the country was neither wrong nor lesser for doing it my way round. Now I call it tea/supper/dinner on various days as I've grown up with a mixture of all the terms.

NewName, a kindred soul ... I agree and definitely think yanbu!! It sounds stupid and stuck up.

I just heard an advert on the radio and some woman rattling on about supper and wondered if it's only me that grimaces.

Is it really common usage? Where?
Are you referring to dinner? What northerners call tea?

Or is it a snack before bed?

Supper here is either a slightly later or smaller meal than dinner. I.e.

Sunday lunch at 2pm- small meal is supper at say 7pm

Missed dinner, have a supper at 9pm

I hate it too. Dinner for us. Even if we have a biscuit before bed, which is how I'd define it, we never call it that.

If I say it (born and brought up in London) it's your evening meal.

If pretty much anybody else says it, including my dc (Yorkshire born and bred), it means late evening/bedtime snack.

Yabu.

Supper is instead of, and later than, dinner would normally be.

So Sundays involve a roast lunch at approx 1pm and then supper at approx 8pm. Supper here isn't normally a hot meal it's lovely little picky bits like nice cheese with crackers and chutney, fruit etc or mackerel pate with toast.

It's not a classist issue!

Supper is a pre-bed snack. Tea/dinner is the evening meal.

Supper is a pre-bed snack. Tea/dinner is the evening meal.

It's not pretentious, you tend to follow what you were raised with. I was raised to eat supper, my husband was raised to eat dinner.

IME posh people call main evening meal supper (if not going out), whereas growing up with a less posh, northernish parent we called that 'tea' and supper was snack just before bed.

A "picky" evening meal for us would be tea, but we never have a cooked lunch so it's always a hot dinner in the evening.

To me it conjures up an image of evening dinner party at a country manner with side plates, crystal glasses and a lot of silverware.

Not bothered by supper but 'hollibobs' really sets my teeth on edge..,.,

I'm not a fan either, whenever I hear it Nigel Slater in all his pretentious smuggery pops into my head. I suppose it is slightly better than 'tea' though, urgh that one really sets my teeth on edge.

In our house which is solidly middle class, we have Lunch in middle of the day, Tea if you are little and have early evening meal (have a friend round for tea) OR are going to Grannies for cup of tea, sandwiches and cake on Sunday about 4 (it's VERY specific ) ..
Dinner is what the older children/adults have as their evening meal.

Supper is late night snack especially if you've been out. It's not posh . It is applied as much to a post theatre sushi snack as it is to a greasy kebab after an evening on the lash.. its the timing that matters not the social class of the eater or the content of the nosh .