For not having many friends and being okay with that?

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Dp told me last night that he's worried that I don't go out and see friends enough. I went through a stage not long after having my first of pining for friends when my childless group of friends because distant, but 5 years on I'm pretty happy in my own company. I have three friends I consider good friends, and a few aquantinces if I want to go out for drinks (which is getting less and less). I think he's feeling guilty because his popularity seems to have exploded in the past year, and he's out nearly every evening. But I'm genuinely okay with it. I see my friends if/when we're both available, but as we all work shifts and have kids it does get hard, but we speak nearly everyday. Am I isolating myself by not going out as often as I used to?

I apologise for the overuse of the word 'friends that's why you should preview 😂

I don't think I have any friends really. Well, not ones I see in rl that is.

I have not had a best friend since I was about 14, and then we spectacularly fell out and by then I was too late, everyone already had besties.

I have one friend who I could maybe call in an emergency, but she is so lovely I think she'd help the devil if he called her at 2am! I would love to see her more, but she has 2 young kids, travels a lot for work and doesn't live that close either. So weeks and months and now years go by with just FB posts and the odd text.

I occasionally wonder who I'd invite to a party or a wedding and I don't really have anyone.

I'd say I have maybe 4 proper friends, many acquaintance. Love my own company. None of these friends are local in the slightest, all in different countries. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Ooops acquaintances not acquaintance

I have 5/6 close friends, 3 of which live in another country. I have some acquaintances too, but very content with my family and cats :) my partner is the same but it seems to bother him more and he says he gets upset that he doesn't see his friends enough, so if you're happy that's fine!

I'm happiest in my own company, or with DH and teenage DD. For various reasons, I no longer have extended family in my life and I'm happy with that. Friends have come and gone as my life and work have changed. I've never needed friends, or company and used to panic if my social diary became busy as I needed time out away from everyone! I find the outside world overwhelming and don't cope well in busy places. I guess I'm just an 'antisocial butterfly'.

I don't have 100's of friends

I've 6 I'd class a really good friends and as a little group we are close. I know many other people (I.e dh friends, work people etc) but wouldn't class them as friends

I do love my own company though. Even as a teen I never really wanted to go far was happiest in my bedroom with music

I only have 3 close friends and acquaintances who I would go for a drink with.
Oh and I also have lots of family we see and 3 kids that take up A LOT of time and work long hours.
I think what you've described is normal.
I think going out every evening when you have kids is too much if I'm honest

3 is good, 3 to 5 friends is average!

I've always been a loner, and I have 1 friend, who moved a long way away, a few months ago, so I spend a lot of time alone, but I have my dog so I'm fine!

It makes me sad that my wedding will have a grand total of 5 people there if my friend and her fiance can make it, that includes my partner's friends and family!

We have incredibly small families.

But we're happy, we keep each other company, might seem like we put all our eggs in one basket, but when I was single, I was fine doing my own thing too

I can understand your DP wishing to be sociable, but being out nearly every evening rather than spending time with you?

I assume he works all day and sleeps for at least 6 hours a night...so where does that leave you in the pecking order?

I think extroverts don't get it and think if you're not out every night you must be miserable and sad and it's a tragedy.

I'm fine with staying in alone, in fact I love the freedom of doing nothing and gathering my thoughts. I tried to be the sort of person who is out every night but that exhausted me and made me miserable in the day and I started dreading seeing people.

I think as long as you're OK with it then just do your thing and let him do his.

3 is a lot of friends. I can't ever imagine ever having 3 friends. I don't have any due to extreme social anxiety as a teenager and have got used to having no friends.

I'm like the Goodwife

Only one good friend in a different country and no family.
A few nice acquaintances, me and DD. DH is my friend but we live apart!

Friends have come and gone over time. I used to be really sociable when younger but would panic now at having all those parties, events, friends, obligations!