DS hit me in the face and OH laughed?!

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My DS who's 3 and his dad and I were playing with a beach ball in the living room and having a laugh, then DS came over and smacked me square in the face! I looked over to OH expecting him to say 'No don't hit mummy!!' But he chuckled and said 'oh he's just playing with you'.

AIBU to think that's a f*ing ridiculous response from him??

I disciplined DS and then had a go at OH for his reaction and he did apologise but now he's saying it was no big deal anyway.

Am I loosing my mind?!

It's not good when one parenting is doing all the discipline and the other is the "fun" parent who never does any of the discipline. My DC is 18 months and if he does anything like this, we firmly say "no" and don't laugh or smile. Yes, it's hard sometimes because he's a cutie and we find him hilarious, but I don't want to do anything to encourage him to hit. I don't want him hitting us or other people. So yeah, sometimes it can be tough to do the discipline, but it's part of parenting. I would tell him he needs to start taking on an equal share of parenting and supporting you with teaching good behaviour.

But he chuckled and said 'oh he's just playing with you'.
Would he say that if your ds was 16 and hit you in the face?

Don't get too excited about it. Just speak to him and ask him not to encourage your son in future. It's not worth getting angry about

I think I'm angry because I constantly have to tell OH to not encourage hitting, or to generally back me up when I'm trying to discipline DS. He wants to be his best friend and it's so annoying.

Stupid man.

If it hasn't happened before he might have been unsure how to react out of surprise.
Have to ask though, why did you expect him to tell your son it was bad/naughty and not tell him straight off yourself?
I know you did discipline him, but why did you refer to your partner to do so first?

Apologies, i clicked to open several threads at once and just tabbed to this one so didn't see your update before posting. He shouldn't have laughed in that case as it doesn't sound like it was something out of the blue.