Hi. Just a heads up I've named changed as it's a bit of sensitive subject and can't risk being recognised. It's about a family member (dh's side) and I don't know if I'm best keeping out of it but if I do I don't really know how best to be normal around this person knowing what I know.
This relative has a partner and young children and they have a very strange set up how they live (I can't say any more than about that). Dh's side of the family are all very close and some family members have noticed something was a bit off about their behaviour and overall set up. The pair of them are always loaded even though they both have low paid jobs and I believe they've both lied to the family on many occasions and have fabricated many a tale. Up until recently family have fell for it until another relative of my dh's told him last week what the situation really is.
The top and bottom of it is my dh has been told that his relative and their partner are growing pot in their house and selling it. As soon as dh and I heard it we believed it as every lie and tale they've told up until now has fallen into place and we can now see the bigger picture. Apparently they've been making a lot of money off of it but the money doesn't concern it me. It's that they have kids of their own and are willing to gamble doing this and risk losing them or going to jail.
What has really upset my dh is that this relative has absurd his trust and generosity over the last few years. He's been a shoulder to cry on when they've been coming out with what we now know we're elaborate tales of fiction. He's lent them money as they cried poverty but what's worse is these people have involved their parents and other close relatives and have spent the last couple of years lying to them manipulating them and basically spinning them tales of woe. Me and dh see his relative quite often and I really don't know how to me around them anymore. I know that their parents would be devastated if they knew this was happening but is it our place to tell them? I don't think it is but my dh is worried and angry seeing his family being taken for mugs and having their generosity abused. I know I'll probably be told to mind my own business but imagine you were me or my dh and it was your family who were being lied to and manipulated. Would you say something? Any advice welcome.