Friend is avoiding me

[NooNooHead1981]

AIBU to think my pregnant friend is being odd by avoiding me after I had an ectopic pregnancy two months ago?

(I've posted about this on another thread in the pregnancy forum).

She isn't an overly close friend but she lives nearby and her daughter is best friends with mine, so I see them both on the school run every day. The other day last week she deliberately walked slowly on the opposite side of the road to avoid walking near me and doesn't acknowledge me when I say hello or am friendly towards her.

I can completely understand why she feels very awkward but to give me the cold shoulder treatment is a bit hurtful - I just wish she would say how she feels and chat as an adult. I'm very happy for her pregnancy and want to support her. I don't know whether I should say something or just let it carry on being the elephant in the room.

Maybe she does just feel a little awkward, and doesn't know how to act around you. When someone is pregnant, they like to talk about the pregnancy, so from fear of upsetting you she is choosing to keep a distance. Next time you see her make the move to shout out 'hi', and approach her. Be happy, ask her how she is and how the pregnancy is going. If she knows you're comfortable talking about it, then it might help break the ice. Or maybe it's nothing to do with your ectopic pregnancy (sorry OP ), and she has other stuff going on in her life.

Sorry for what you're going through OP. It may be that she doesn't know how to react around you but she may also be feeling nervous about her own pregnancy. I used to have 2 really good friends one male one female who were both expecting around the same time. The male friends partner lost her twins at around 5 months and the female friend just refused to speak to him or about him until she had her daughter then just tried to go back to normal like nothing had happened and claimed she just didn't want to jinx her own pregnancy and in her own mind I think she thought that was ok