Boss not giving me eye contact

[Rach6l]

Before exh & I seperated (amicably) we were friends with a couple. Ex more him, me more her.

Since the split he offered me a job & I work part time for him - i never see him in the course of work.

But I do see him socially now & then. The weird thing is he never speaks to me & doesn't make eye contact with me. I thought I was just paranoid but ex asked if everything was alright because he noticed boss blanking me yesterday. I was sat right next to ex & asked boss a question - he answered to ex

Is he just really uncomfortable with ex & I being friends? Or just doesn't like me??? What's going on, its unnerving me!

Maybe he fancies you?

Is that what you think?

Well im worried that the only response here! But no I think that's v unlikely, im not doing myself down but his wife is stunning
Hes sent me a normal, fairly breezy email this morning (re work)

He sounds uncomfortable. Could he be embarrassed about conversations he's had about you? Eg. With your ex when you were splitting up?

Well there's no great skeletons in my closet or our marriage.
Ex has only seem him on his own socially a couple of times because he moved away.
Uncomfortable, yes he is. About what though? Does he think hes in danger of me jumping on him??
I just think it's such weird behaviour & I'm not sure i want to work for someone who is uncomfortable with me. Why offer me a job??

Maybe he's just awkward?

I spent the entire first year on my job feeling utterly terrified of my (nice as fuck) boss because he never looked me in the eye and I would have sworn he secretly wanted me to burn in hell. Until one day he told me he was happy we worked together because he liked me a lot on a personal level (while staring at the wall as though his life depended on it).

Turns out my boss is not the most socially adept person out there. Evidently, neither am I (or I would have noticed he had confidence issued).

Four years down the road and awkward boss is still my manager. We get on like a house on fire, holding all sorts of fun 'socially awkward people united' talks with each other.

Lol yeah but its only me hes awkward with!

Hi folks,

The OP has asked us to move this over to AIBU. We're sending it over now!

Mine's only really awkward with me, too. I'm putting it down to a non-awkward relationship requiring at least one non-awkward participant.

On the upside, I can literally talk about pretty much anything with him - it's already awkward, so really the adeed impact of the subject matter being moderately to severely embarrassing is negligible ...

Some people are just awkward. Eye contact is something I struggle with, even with people I feel entirely comfortable with like my Dp and my own mum! I get worried I'm making too much or not enough, it's actually quite anxiety inducing. It's probably nothing personal, he has probably over thunk things in regards to your split and is worried about stepping on any toes.