To not let ds go to birthday party

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Generallyok · 08/05/2017 09:34

Ds who is 8 has been invited to a birthday party by one of his school friends. The party invite is to a venue 28 miles away which includes a motorway journey. The invite asks parents to drop off at the child's home and then the birthday boys parents will drive the children to the venue. On occasions I have seen the child's mother talking on the phone ( holding mobile) while driving and this really worries me but I am not terribly good at thinking locically and prone to anxiety. I know ds will be so upset if I say he can't go and my dh will think I am over worrying.

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CheeseCrackersAndWine · 08/05/2017 09:41

Can you say he can go but will meet them at the venue and you drive him there yourself?

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Generallyok · 08/05/2017 09:42

I thought that cheese but wondered if the parents would think this odd? Happy to drive ds there though

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blackteasplease · 08/05/2017 09:43

Yes, just say it fits in better to meet them there.

Leeds2 · 08/05/2017 09:45

I would imagine that they would be pleased someone was taking one of the guests as it frees up a space in the car! Just say you have something to do in the area before hand, so it fits in nicely.

ArialAnna · 08/05/2017 09:47

Could you drive DS to the party and back again yourself? You might have to come up with an inventive reason but I'm sure you could think of something.

Otherwise I'd just let him go. I doubt the mum will be on her phone with a bunch of boys in the back to supervise as well as drIving. Also no offense, but when your DS is older he'll likely share car rides with newly qualified friends who as inexperienced drivers will probably be a lot worse than this mum! You can't protect them from every risk in life. Chances are he'll be fine.

CheeseCrackersAndWine · 08/05/2017 09:59

If you are happier to drive him there yourself just say you have something else on beforehand that's near the venue so you will just meet them there for convenience? I don't think they will give it a second thought. I know I wouldn't.

Kokusai · 08/05/2017 10:04

Just say you'll meet them there.

NuffSaidSam · 08/05/2017 10:10

Drive him yourself.

Make an excuse. Or tell the truth about being overly anxious (leave out the bit about the phone).

It would be unreasonable to not let him go.

Out of interest what do you do when there is a school trip and they need to go on a coach?

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