Sorry, this will be long in an attempt not to dripfeed but I am absolutely bouncing.
My DM died three years ago and my DF last August. DM was one of four, and I have been NC with her youngest brother, Twatty Uncle (TU) for over ten years when he raised his fist to punch me during a disagreement over the care of my grandfather, who I was living with to care for at the time. My DM and DF backed me and also went NC when he displayed no remorse. He did not contact my DM when he knew she had terminal cancer because he is a self absorbed heartless bastard. My DS (younger sister) remained in limited contact with him for a time but hasn't bothered with him for years really, after his true colours were displayed time and again.
My DGF owned land that passed to the 4 siblings when he died, mum's 1/4 passed to DF and to my DS and I jointly after his death. For years it has been rented out as grazing land, managed by DM, but after DMs death the family who rented it were really crappy with paying and DF was grieving and ill and nobody was really bothered about chasing it up as it was a pittance really (£40 PCM) and it was better to have it occupied to deter squatting.
My DS has confessed this afternoon that within weeks of DFs death, TU started harassing her by phone asking where his share of the rent for the past three years was (I've no idea what was happening with it when my DM was alive, I never asked, but I think it might have been distributed via our aunt. Tbh following mum's death and with DF really unwell and in and out of hospital I didn't give it much thought). DS told him repeatedly that rent hadn't been paid for ages and he got really shitty with her, leaving her in tears after each call. She eventually called our aunt, who does speak to him, who assured her that she and the other sibling were not bothered and she would deal with TU. DS then had another call asking for historical copies of the grazing agreement (which we did find when we cleared and sold DFs house last month but are yet to send) as he is 'taking over' managing the land. She rang DA in tears again as he was so rude to her and she hasn't heard from him since.
Bearing in mind he timed this repeated harassment for a night he was aware her DH would be out, started on her literally weeks after our dad died, and has never expressed any sympathy for the loss of our parents or shown any emotion that his sister died of cancer aged 61 because he is a heartless bastard. Also bearing in mind my sister is quite sensitive (as well he knows) and I'm very very protective of her.
She's only just told me this as she was worried I would drive to England and throttle the cuntweasel for upsetting her, which is still quite tempting. However I'm beyond raging that he is accusing my dad of 'squirrelling away [TU's] money' when in fact he wasn't receiving any.
WIBU to calculate £10 pcm X no of months since my mother died and send him a cheque with the terse advice that if he feels so hard done by, he can consider this full reparation of the rent he's missed out on, to never contact my poor DS again, and provide bank details where he can deposit our £10 pcm share of the rent going forward as he's now presumably actually receiving some in his 'management' role? And also to fuck off and die the heartless arsewipe?