Snoring OH

[MissBax]

I'm 5 months pregnant and getting to that stage now where sleep is becoming more and more necessary (I'm tired alot).
But my OH's snoring has become intolerable - it wakes me up almost hourly. Now we do have a second bedroom - soon to be nursery - with a small single bed in it that isn't that comfortable at all. So I often go in there but then struggle to sleep as the bed is small and uncomfortable. Am I being unreasonable to ask my OH to sleep in there instead? I feel bad asking him to but I am pregnant and really need a good night's sleep at the moment! Also is this going to be it now? 29 and sleeping in separate rooms?!

Can he sleep on the small uncomfortable bed? Maybe invest in a more comfortable one if he's a long term snorer, will keep you sane in the future.

It's a shame you weren't here a few days ago as I pretty much put up a similar thread. I'm also pregnant and DH's snoring is intolerable.

We have slept separately already for the last 18 months due to him keeping me awake but we've had to start sharing again due to the practical aspects of Baby number 2 being on the horizon.

We have been back in the same room for just over a week now and he's already spent three nights on the sofa because I just can't cope with his snoring.

Your OH should absolutely be the one on the smaller bed - my DH would never deesm of expecting me to leave the double bed and sleep elsewhere as a result of him keeping me awake.

On my thread SO many women posted about problems with their DH snoring and how they hate sharing a room with them. A lot of women also said they sleep separately for this reason. You are not alone!!!

Until we sorted a comfortable second bed, my husband gladly slept on the sofa to aid my sanity over his nightly express train act. Can you stretch to a comfier mattress for the spare bed, perhaps? If so then no, YANBU

Another one living with a snorer here. It's a right pain in the arse. You have my sympathy op.

It's a shame isn't it Writer! Unfortunately we can't get another bed, as we got the one we did due to its size and fitting it into the nursery room.
What's more frustrating is that I know his snoring is exacerbated by him smoking - although I just want to point out he does not smoke indoors (before anyone picks up on that - so I can't help resent it. I already hate him smoking and we argue about it everytime it's brought up (he knows he should / and wants to stop), but it just gets to me even more. When he's quit in the past the snoring stops.

Get a memory foam overlay, makes any uncomfortable bed REALLY comfortable

If it's self inflicted snoring then I would be LIVID!!! There's no way you should be suffering because of his lifestyle choice.

Surely having a baby on the way is incentive enough to quit?

Just because he doesn't smoke in the house doesn't mean the baby won't be affected by it.

My DH moved into the babies room when she was born. Before that he slept on sofa 2 nights a week to give me a break. We also have 5 and 7yo I used to go and get in bed with them.
We are now expecting dc4 so this will be the norm for at least a few more years.
Sometimes I have to close the doors because of his snoring. If we were Catholic I think I could probably get him exorcised his snoring is so bad it's like the devil himself.
For what it's worth we're 32, and if we hadn't moved to different rooms I would have smothered him with a pillow in a sleepless night rage.
Good luck OP

Just to clarify baby is in with me, husband is alone in lovely silver/grey floral room lol

Put him in there. Mine went to the sleep clinic to sort out his snoring. It boggles my head that it's not necessary to have to put up with excessive snoring and there are fixes out there but people won't see about them.

There are no laws that say you have to share a bed. I love my bedroom and bed to myself.

Thanks happydays I hadn't thought of that but will look into it!
Writer I know! He has assured me he is going to quit before DC arrives. I'm due end if August and he's given himself end of July as his "quitting date", although of course I have my doubts. I've talked him through all the dangers of SIDS even when a parent smokes outside, and of course the risks to his own health and how that will impact upon our child. I don't have an addictive personality at all so he often tells me how unempathetic I'm being and how I don't understand how hard it is 😕

Oddsocks - "If we were Catholic I think I could probably get him exorcised his snoring is so bad it's like the devil himself." 😂😂 brilliant!

I'm due end of August too

I hope he quits but I have my doubts too!! The best of luck though

Selfish twat needs to get off his butt and get in the second bedroom. I'd say that even if you weren't pregnant, but your comfort and need for rest are top priority and he should be automatically putting you first. His choice to smoke, he should suffer the consequences, not his pregnant wife.

Unempathetic? What a twunt! A choice he continues to make is causing you discomfort and loss of sleep. He can move back in to the bedroom when he no longer snores!

No he's not refusing to, I just don't know whether I'm being unreasonable to expect him to, rather than me! But after reading your comments and thinking about it, I don't feel so bad now. He's ordered some e-liquid today to try and help him stop too! Thanks all :)

You're right Navy, I just feel bad cos he's 6'4 and the bed is pretty small. But yeah I am growing a human being haha.

Get some earplugs. Job done.
It's made a massive difference to my quality of sleep!

Malika I've tried them but for some reason they really hurt my ears - I feel like I have shallow ears! 🤔😕 haha

Ahh no I hadn't heard of those one Navy. That sounds much better as the foam ones just hurt on insertion and then fall out. Thanks, I'll definitely look for them :)
Will I still hear my alarm go off?!

Buy a memory foam mattress topper and ask him to sleep in there so you can get some sleep. My OH was on the sofa but we're currently sofa-less until the new one is delivered Wednesday and I'm counting down the nights until I can evict him from the bed again lol. 30 weeks pregnant here and his snoring is like nothing I've heard before so I feel your pain! He wasn't getting any sleep either because I was waking him to shut up roll over so he was happier on the sofa too