ARRRGHHH HELP

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I'm in such a pickle. So basically my best friend let's call her Sue.
Sue has been married to Derek for many years.
Derek had an affair 3 years ago and left sue for OW. But come back to sue after 5 months.
OW is my cousin Paula.
I have just heard from Paula that her and Derek are back at it again.
Should I tell my best friend her husband is cheating again.

She's your best friend and as much as it'll hurt you to be the bearer of bad news, She deserves to know.
I fully appreciate it can't be easy though

I know what I should do. I just don't want to come across an an interfering person. I haven't spoken to my cousin since she had the first affair. She has just gone out of her way to tell me.
It's an awful situation. I am seeing my friend for coffee tomorrow.

Difficult one. I would say not to get involved but as a friend I would want know. He sounds like an arse

I would be careful on this, only you know all the parties involved. I would probably go down the route of Paula has gone out of her way to say this to me but other than her I have no proof it is true (unless you have) I don't want to cause you pain and their is a strong possibility she is using me to fuck you and derek up

I haven't spoken to my cousin since she had the first affair. She has just gone out of her way to tell me

So either she is a woman scorned who wants Sue to find out and kick Derek out possibly intending on dumping Derek as revenge for him getting back with Sue....OR it is a genuine "back together" and she is trying to force a split. Either way, she told you because she knows that you will probably tell Sue.

As to what to do....either tell Sue or tell Derek what Paula is up to and give him a time limit to tell her himself and/or finish it with Paula or you will have no choice but to get in volved.

Or as So is saying, Paula could be out and out lying although my instinct is saying not. Dont know why though!

Have you asked Paula why she is telling you this? Might be worth doing that to see what she says, it could be very illuminating.

Paula is definitely using you to make sure Sue knows alllllll about the re-kindled affair, whether it's real or not.

I think sobeyond has a good approach.

She told me and showed me the pictures to prove it. I feel like I'm in the middle of a massive shit storm.... Again.
I saw how devastated my friend was last time. I just think I'm dressing to see her like that again

I asked Paula this when she first told me. She said she wanted me to hear it from her not another person

Sobeyond. That s some very good advise. I think I'm definitely going to go about it in this way and hope that I don't get all the brunt of it.

She said she wanted me to hear it from her not another person

Yeah right.....nothing to do with the wife of her lover being your best friend.

Whatever you do I would let both barrels go at Paula. Make it clear what you think of her behaviour and that you want to hear nothing more about it. She can only use you if you take her calls/see her etc.

Oh and get your best friend to fuck Derek off once and for all. The guy is a cunt and she can do better.

Tell Derek to tell Sue by Friday or you will. What a pair of shitbags!