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AIBU am I being pushed out?

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Singyourheartout · 04/05/2017 00:52

Not sure if this is aibu or just want a bit of perspective and opinion.
Socially I quite akward. I have a few friends about 4 that I regularly see and what not.
My friend best has gone a bit of the rails lately and as much as I tried to support them I feel it on deaf ears so while being supportive I let her get on with it.
I have been closer too these two others over this year. But increasingly I feel a bit of an outsider. I don't think it's intentionally, more out of absent mindleness and thoughtlessness.
One example we decided to book a holiday. I turned up for coffee one day to find out they had booked a camping trip without asking my option on the location or date. It was very convenient for them but not for me. But I agree anyway as I really wanted this holiday. I soon realised that I would be forking out probs double what the trip cost in travel, food ect. However I have had to cancel it because I got a new job, parents unforeseen money troubles and just general miffed about the situation. They were very understanding about it and said they would give me money back.
The more I write this, the more I feel like I'm being silly about it.
But I feel like the two friends and really connecting, inviting each other to family things. And I'm sort of left out, I don't expect to be invited to everything but I just feel I'm left out of so much.
I know I should not be too focused on this but I feel like an outsider, and that the other two are much closer.
I have a new job at a pub so hopefully I makes some friends their but also I will try and join a society next academic year.
Do I just come to terms with this? Or should o try making an effort and try to connect with them more.

OP posts:
user1491572121 · 04/05/2017 10:08

You're at uni yes? You're not being silly...but it is one of those life things. Sometimes, groups pair up and then someone's left out. Same happened to me with a pair I was mates with in Uni. I couldn't make one get together at short notice and they basically "broke up with me"

Officially! These were (I thought!) two intelligent young women. They are intelligent. They just got weird.

No reasoning behind it. YOu will make more mates and definitely do join societies. They're a tonne of fun.

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