to expect my mum to be pleased we got our first choice school?

[hotandbothered]

Well it says it all.
We finally heard that our dd got a place at the local infant school. We are so relieved because I want her to get to know children round where we live and not just ones we've met at toddlers etc. Also, it's a really happy, thriving , successful school and we felt she would fit in there really well.
Anyway, rang mum to pass on the good news and got an earful about how children shouldn't have to change school at 7 and that I wouldn't have coped. That she'll end up losing her friends to other schools etc
Why can she not just trust my judgement for once and be happy for us? [angry}

I'm sure she's happy deep down. She probably just didn't realise how important it is to you.

I'm sure your dd will love the new school. Then you can take great pleasure in calling your mum and gloating!!

Thanks Mylittlestar! She's always gone on and on at me about how important a good school is and how we were sent to the best school etc etc. She doesn't realise or wont believe that I was thoroughly miserable at school and would do all in my power for dds experience with education to be better.
I wish I didn't get hurt though when she is so negative.

My mum does it all the time. And it's only after the event, or if I get really upset, that she realises what she's said and thinks about it a bit more carefully.

After your experience at school it's great that you're doing your best for dd and I think having lots of school friends locally will be lovely, popping round to each other's houses for tea and to play etc.

Your mum obviously has very strong views on the subject and probably won't listen to you no matter what you say.

Definitely not your fault you feel hurt when she's negative though.

Perhaps next time rather than do something like get into a debate over who is right/wrong, just say 'It really upsets me when you are so negative about things I have put a lot of thought and effort into. I'm doing my very best for dd and I would love it if you could support me. '

You never know, it may make her at least think about not being so negative in the future...
(We live in hope!)

I wish I could be brave and say something like that to her. But I feel like the sky would fall in or something! Pathetic I know. easier just to moan... Wish I would learn tho' not to expect a positive reaction

Well come and rant on here any time you want

And just take great pleasure in knowing you're doing the best for dd and she will be content and happy at school.

My MIL thrives on being negative and really I don't think there is any connection between her gob and her brain at all. As long as you are happy and confident about the choices you make don't let it bother you too much.

Thank you
Funnily enough, I do feel better now...
I shall go and jump up and down again now - I really am so pleased she is going to this particular school!