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Does he think I want to shag him?

9 replies

MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/05/2017 20:15

I'll try to keep it brief but informative here:

At work, I'm arranging a conference. My own colleagues are reluctant to attend, but people from other places are coming, so my conference can still go ahead. (I promise this is relevant)

My allocated funding is pretty good, and when a male colleague asked me about it today, I told him it was a well funded project that is running for over a year and he should get on board if he can.

While trying to talk up the project, I made a joke about booking the local fancy hotel and spa. I meant that we would have the conference there obviously, but I didn't say those actual words...and he pulled a surprised face.

On his way out he made a joke about he knows 'it's a nice place for a conference, but I know that's not really what you want it for'.

I'm mortified if he thinks I was dropping hints! Do you think he meant I'm after their spa facilities?

Both married and a huge age gap, he's much older. If that matters?

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FelixtheMouse · 03/05/2017 20:34

I think (as a bloke) that he thinks you're trying to wangle a spa weekend under the guise of a conference.

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 03/05/2017 20:37

Yup, I think he was implying you would be sneaking off for facials and normal (not sexy) massages rather than shags

Asmoto · 03/05/2017 20:39

I think you may be reading too much into it - you spoke lightheartedly and he responded in a similar vein. If there's no history of flirting between you, I doubt he would take it as a hint you fancied him.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 03/05/2017 20:39

Yes, YABVU. It sounds like a joke about you wanting a jolly. I don't get why colleagues "need to get on board" - is it a one day conference or a year long project? Doesn't make sense.

Crashbangwhatausername · 03/05/2017 21:13

Depends how he said it?

MooPointCowsOpinion · 03/05/2017 22:25

saltandvinegar its not relevant to my post so I didn't go into details about that. I wouldn't worry about that bit, it's very dull.

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edwinbear · 03/05/2017 22:28

He definitely meant you were after a freebie spa trip on company time/money. I reckon he would be mortified if he thought you thought he was alluding to anything else!

ScarlettFreestone · 03/05/2017 22:30

You're overthinking. He meant the spa.

outabout · 03/05/2017 22:40

What is wrong with a bit of 'banter' (horrible expression)?
As long as you both KNOW it is not going anywhere a bit of mild provocation (spoken) can be fun.
Life is a bit short to be 'po faced' all the time.

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