AIBU - quality time with partner.

[owletta]

It has been bothering me for a while that DP and I don't really go on "dates" anymore, and I've been wistfully reminiscing about the early days when he used to arrange lots of nice things for us to go and do. I think I'm feeling a bit neglected, and this has just felt like the final straw and really pissed me off.

DS is on a residential trip with school next week. Five days away. I had been looking forward to being able to do "child-free" things, like going to dinner/the cinema on a weeknight, etc with DP. Sleeping naked. Having sex in the lounge! All the things you can't normally do when there's a wee one in the house.

Anyway, DP didn't realise the dates of DS's residential and is now booked to go on a training course with work for the same week. He'll be staying away, so I'll be home alone for the week. No big deal, but I am a bit disappointed. It'll be great in other ways - no-one to cook dinner for, a totally tidy house and so on, plus I can go and see my friends in the evenings instead.

HOWEVER, we have this Saturday night without DS, and DP has just called to ask if I'd mind if he went fishing with his mates.

AIBU to be pissed off by this, when he's already away for 4 nights next week with work? Or am I being a bit needy?

I'm a planning type and even I think a week's notice is too long for going out on a weekend evening. Friends are out one Saturday, make plans for the following Saturday and mention to your partner on Monday and he's not allowed to go? Letting you know by the end of Monday would give you plenty of time to plan something.

I'd be upset about the mistimed training though, and the fishing just before, and I'd say a flat no to him going away just before your exam.

He's fine about not going away just before my exam/after my op. I just mentioned it as it's making me feel like I'm stopping him from doing what he wants.

Perhaps I'm being harsh with the one week then, although in all honesty if he mentioned something on a Monday then I honestly wouldn't have a problem with it, it's just having enough time to sort something out for myself too. He does also go out for drinks after work about once a fortnight and there's no "notice" then, it's only Saturday nights which bother me.

He's away with work not pleasure so fishing trip shouldn't be a big deal, away on hol with his mates and a fishing trip on your one night is perhaps a bit different

I said a week was a bit much because sometimes I might get a message from a friend on a Wednesday saying she's back in town that weekend and am I free for lunch on Saturday. In that situation I'd like to say yes!