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AIBU nightweaning failure and IVF, prolactin 200, please help!

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crepust · 03/05/2017 16:46

IVF clinic have told me I have to wean then wait 4 months before they'll treat me. I'm single so hubby putting the baby down is not an option. My child doesn't talk yet so I can't have much of a conversation with them about it. I'm 40 so time is running/run out (child conceived at 37)

I tried the Dr Jay Gordon method last night, after over an hour of screaming I didn't know what to do, so I boobed her, I KNOW you're not meant to but I was worried about traumatising her. She started sleeping at one point but I moved my arm a miniscule amount and we were back to square one.

My prolactin is 200 (normal range is 0-700) and I know there's a facebook group for women who are having ivf and have lied to their doctors as they can't wean their kids (they research the drugs via sources such as the Drugs in Breastmilk Helpline which has a pharmacist who specialises in the issue, that's how they avoid harm to the foetus etc).

I still really want to wean to give myself maximum amount of chance of conceiving and maintaining a pregnancy, but also because the constant interruptions at night when I'm trying to get stuff done is starting to get to me, and she's nipping and going on and off the boob now too!!

I'm going to try and have a look at Pantley's pull-off method but any other suggestions welcome, so upset.IVF clinic have told me I have to wean then wait 4 months before they'll treat me. I'm single so hubby putting the baby down is not an option. My child doesn't talk yet so I can't have much of a conversation with them about it. I'm 40 so time is running/run out (child conceived at 37)

I tried the Dr Jay Gordon method last night, after over an hour of screaming I didn't know what to do, so I boobed her, I KNOW you're not meant to but I was worried about traumatising her. She started sleeping at one point but I moved my arm a miniscule amount and we were back to square one.

My prolactin is 200 (normal range is 0-700) and I know there's a facebook group for women who are having ivf and have lied to their doctors as they can't wean their kids (they research the drugs via sources such as the Drugs in Breastmilk Helpline which has a pharmacist who specialises in the issue, that's how they avoid harm to the foetus etc).

I still really want to wean to give myself maximum amount of chance of conceiving and maintaining a pregnancy, but also because the constant interruptions at night when I'm trying to get stuff done is starting to get to me, and she's nipping and going on and off the boob now too!!

I'm going to try and have a look at Pantley's pull-off method but any other suggestions welcome, so upset.

OP posts:
Neverknowing · 03/05/2017 16:58

Have you tried a dummy or your pinky finger? Sometimes they must want something to suck on? How old is your DC?

AgathaMystery · 03/05/2017 17:21

Okay. Jay Gordon is (IMO) an excellent, gentle method. It took me 5 night. Night one was awful but I was with DC all the while so they weren't traumatised from being separated. In fact - I recognised by night the that they were bloody livid. Not upset!

I would try JG properly - it does take time. I also recommend doing it in their own cot. If your DC is like mine then it wasn't going to work whilst co sleeping.

Try it again & just pick those 6 hrs you first want to wean. For me it was 0000-0600 & I then pushed it out to increase the hours.

Good luck

crepust · 04/05/2017 04:32

she doesn't accept dummy or pinky finger :-(

Agatha - how long did your child cry for on the first night? That's what I wasn't prepared for.......it got to over and hour and I was worried I was harming her.....if i'd known the maximum time in advance it would've helped!

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nogrip · 04/05/2017 07:33

Crying won't harm her, it's just very upsetting for you. You must be consistent in whatever you try, that's key. Don't buckle, it's for your DDS own good in the long run

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