Reduced Maintenence Payment

[Pidgy72]

AIBU? Hi all, I'd value some opinions on my current situation

From this month's maintenance payment my husband deducted an amount owing for our son's activities. I agreed to pay half in September 2016, but haven't paid anything yet. I told him I would pay both next year but he wasn't happy with that.

He has paid both children's subs this year (he also pays 2 other activities that I refuse to co-fund as he chose to enrol them).

I think that the maintenance amount is fixed and irrespective of the fact that I owe him money, he shouldn't have deducted this amount off this month but AIBU

Well you agreed to pay 50% this year, and haven't, so perhaps he doesn't feel very confident that you will pay up the whole amount next year, and your DC will end up missing out.

If you already won't pay for other activities (which may be fair enough, don't have enough info to go on), from his POV you might not be all that safe a bet on prioritising this payment next year.

what will you do op ? seems the general idea that you need to sort this out. unless as someone pointed out this is a reverse, - which is a pretty pointless exercise imo

I need to see where I stand legally, so that is next step. He is patronising and controlling and if he has acted illegally will look to recover the money he owes. Thanks to all for commenting x

Eh?

@pidgy72 are you actually for real?? You have failed to. Pay him money you owe him and you are going to persecute him??

Sounds like he isn't the controlling one. Sounds very much like a bitter ex trying to set him up

MN is trolltastic today

Don't waste money, time and effort trying to "recover" money you owed him in the first place. Chalk it up to experience, don't owe him money again and try to build up a contingency if possible so if he doesn't pay maintenance one month you're not left scrabbling.

But you really don't have the moral high ground here, so just move on.

Money he owes?

You haven't paid him anything you agreed to in eight months!

Has he paid less than the CMS guidelines?

Or is it just less than the amount he usually pays?

It's going to cost you more in legal fees to get the money back than he owes. You might be legal in right but I think as others have said morally your not you had a verbal contract to pay half which you haven't done therefore he has deducted that from his monthly payments it makes sense and I'm sure if the shoe was on other foot you would do the same

Sounds like he isn't the controlling one. Sounds very much like a bitter ex trying to set him up

^ this

I need to see where I stand legally, so that is next step.

How about using that money to, you know, pay him back!

legal action, wtf ?and there are people calling TM 'delusional' op is going for the 'sad face' photo and loads of comp for hurt feelings angle next

I need to see where I stand legally, so that is next step

If you can't afford to pay for your own child to do their clubs, how are you paying the Solicitor?

Not often I say this on maintenance threads, but you're wrong here OP.

Your XP sounds like the more financially reliable parent to your child, to be honest.
at getting Solicitors involved, do come back when you've been laughed out of the building under the bridge

Wow no wonder ex's who are rp get slagged off although I'm sure you're in the minority op