I've been single for two years and really at the point now where I want to be settled in a serious relationship (I'm nearing 30). I've been on a lot of dates but very rarely meet anyone I click with.
About 2 months ago I reconnected with a guy I had known when I was 18-20. I hadn't known him very well but had found him attractive and recently found out we had a new shared hobby so I messaged him and he asked if I wanted to go for a drink.
We went on 3 brilliant dates (at the end of the first date I thought I have found "the one"!) - instant connection, attraction, plenty to talk about and shared interests etc.
The problem was that he was absolutely terrible at messaging, to the point I found it upsetting. He took 3 days to reply to my initial message, 8 days to reply to my second message and basically wasn't in touch at all in between dates. I would message the day after the date to say I'd had a nice time and did he want to meet the following Thursday...and he would reply on the following Thursday (a whole week later) saying, sure what do you want to do this eve? It meant we never really developed the relationship between dates, I was getting upset checking my phone and not receiving anything, and I was getting fed up at holding a night free for him in case he replied on the day to say he could make it.
After our third date I explained to him how I'd been feeling - that I really liked him but that his lack of responses made me feel like he wasn't interested and drove me a bit crazy in terms of trying to make plans. He said sorry, I'm just really bad at messaging and like to be independent and that's probably not going to change. My friends have sometimes even worried I've disappeared! If that's going to drive you crazy then it's probably best if we stop seeing each other as I don't want to hurt you. I was gutted as I thought he'd say that he would at least try to improve, but as he didn't, we agreed to end things.
It's now been a few weeks and I'm just feeling really low about it. He's pretty much the only guy I've met who I've really liked in two years and now I wonder whether I gave up on things too soon? But then I think if he was a decent guy he would have said he'd try to be a more considerate and reply at least to messages organising dates? And I don't think independence is a very good excuse either really as I'm also independent but capable of replying to a text! I don't know, I'm confused - WWYD?