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Original poster

AIBU..unsure!

34 replies

Loopy9 · 02/05/2017 14:34

Last year I went on holiday with 2 other families, we decided to do the same and so I booked the villa we had stayed in again. My friend then said her friend and family also wanted to come so I said I would cancel the Villa as we would no long fit in it and look for another villa, we agreed. Another friend then approached us and asked if her family could join us and we all agreed. I sent around some options of larger villas that could accommodate 5 families. Then the friend who we holidayed with last year announced she and her friend wouldn’t be coming with us anymore. So I went back to the original villa but sadly in the two weeks since I had cancelled it, it had been booked. My friends husband (the ones who dropped out) then told my husband that his wife had booked the villa from last year! I’ve seen her but she hasn’t mentioned anything to me. Her husband was horrified as to what she has done and my husband is miffed. I’m feeling really cross..AIBU? If I’m not BU then how would you approach her?

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Allthebestnamesareused · 02/05/2017 14:39

So if you are A and last year went with B and C

Then this year D and E were coming.

Now B and C have cancelled but booked the villa!

Are you still going with D and E?

I'd be bloody furious with B and C!! Cheeky gits. They obviously booked before actually cancelling you too.

Allthebestnamesareused · 02/05/2017 14:41

As to approaching her I'd be really passive aggressive and say something along the lines of - I tried to rebook Villa but someone has only gone and gotten in there first. Lucky things.

I wonder if she'll then say its hers. If she doesn't - then I would say - actually your DH has spilt the beans!

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 02/05/2017 14:44

Tell her you heard they have massive cockroaches so are so glad you cancelled. .poor buggars who go there this year etc. .

sailorcherries · 02/05/2017 14:48

I think that is incredibly cheeky of her, she waited until she knew you would need to cancel the original villa before dropping out. To me that seems to be too planned. Yanbu and I would possibly let her know you know about the villa and ask why.

Allthebest I was under the impression that OP was A and she went with B and C last year.
This year A booked for A, B and C. B then invited D and C invited E, at which point the villa was cancelled. Then C and E pulled out and booked the original villa, leaving A, B and D in the lurch.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 02/05/2017 14:49

Allthebestnamesareused

I read it as being:

A (OP) went last year with friends B and C.

This year:
B wanted to bring friends, meaning it was going to be A, B, B1 and C

Then another friend wanted to come: A, B, B1, C and D

Now, B and B1 have pulled out the group and are going to last year's villa by themselves. Not as cruel as how you had it, but bad enough.

(Obviously, am using the letters to represent whole families, not just individuals.)

expatinscotland · 02/05/2017 14:49

I'm so confused.

MyOtherNameIsTaken · 02/05/2017 15:36

I'm lost.

TyneTeas · 02/05/2017 15:38

Did the families you went with last year who have now cancelled going with you and rebooked the original villa, did they agree to additional families being added?

rizlett · 02/05/2017 15:39

but perhaps the original families you went with didn't want to go if two other different families were also going?

did you ask?

i wouldn't think it unreasonable for them to book 'your' villa if you wanted to make it a whole bigger scene than maybe they did.

Original poster
Loopy9 · 02/05/2017 15:42

@TimeIHadaNameChange

You're correct!
A (me) B & C went last year.
B invite D
E asked to join us we all agreed.
B&D formed a splinter group and booked the villa I'd cancelled.
A, C & E would have fitted the Villa perfectly.
B hasn't said a word but her husband has..

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MatildaTheCat · 02/05/2017 15:49

The whole thing sounds like a bloody nightmare. Five families in one villa? You've had a lucky escape. If the remaining friends are still up for going away together I'd be looking for a complex with separate accommodation around a shared pool or similar.

However, friend B is a cheeky cow and should have checked with you.

Original poster
Loopy9 · 02/05/2017 15:52

@rizlett

Everyone was asked and everyone agreed before anything changed.. all were in agreement!

@MatildaTheCat I think you're right! Smile what was I thinking!

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DarklyDreamingDexter · 02/05/2017 23:20

If B did that to me she'd be an ex friend by now. Totally not on. I wouldn't just be miffed I'd be bloody furious!

Although I have to agree that 5 families in one villa sounds like a total nightmare to me! That's not the point though. If B and D didn't want to be part of such a large group they should have said so before firm arrangements were made. To then sneakily rebook the villa you had to cancel because it was too small once she'd invited friend D along is just taking the piss. I'd seriously want nothing more to do with her after that.

chastenedButStillSmiling · 02/05/2017 23:48

Your best revenge will be when all the other letters have a better holiday than B+D, so make sure you do!

Fishface77 · 02/05/2017 23:54

Well someone's a cunt then!
Not sure who but someone is.

Witchend · 03/05/2017 00:06

Tell her you couldn't book that one but have booked the one next door for your families the same week of course.
The watch her panic.

emmyrose2000 · 03/05/2017 03:59

Wow, so your supposed "friend" B double crossed and backstabbed you?

She'd be my ex friend B by now.

Let her know that you're aware of the nasty sneakiness she pulled behind your back and then cut her dead. She sounds disgusting.

Have you told C and E yet?

Hidingtonothing · 03/05/2017 04:24

I second Witchend's idea Smile

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/05/2017 05:06

What a bitch. What do the others say? Ex friend perhaps? I love Witchends idea.

58NotBothered · 03/05/2017 05:18

A villa to accommodate 5 families = hotel, surely.
(Totally misses the point)

ItsThisOneThing · 03/05/2017 05:28

Wow, that is so out of order! I can't believe the nerve of her! I don't think I'd be able to get past this and stay friends.

I would just be blunt and l ask her for an explanation.

FrenchLavender · 03/05/2017 07:30

I understood it the first time and your friend is completely out of order. Id be fucking furious.

But then I would never be going on holiday with several other families in the first place. What a thankless task for you and a nightmare all round.

Bluntness100 · 03/05/2017 07:37

But uou were not going to be using the villa right? The issue is she and friend were supposed to come on hols with you and cancelled.why was this? Did uou ask them if the other two families could come and if they were happy with that before you agreed to making it a hol for five families and not three? Sounds like they didn't want the additional guests and change of villa. Decided they wouldn't come and knew you weren't using the original villa so booked it.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 03/05/2017 07:51

Bluntness It was already a holiday for 3 families when B invited 4th along. (Therefore making the original villa too small.)
Not sure whose friend E is, but B could have said actually we don't want a 5th family to join. B was the one who made the party too big for the villa in the first place by inviting an extra along, so a bit rich to then pull out for that reason!

saoirse31 · 03/05/2017 07:57

Sounds like my idea of a nightmare, not a holiday.... going away with that many people....

However, yanbu , couple who booked are. Not nice thing to do.

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