Who should get the lie in tomorrow-me or DH?

[grumpyfish52]

So DH and I operate a one lie-in each system at the weekend. We have 2 DC (3yo and 7m, both sleep through and wake around 6)

I'm on mat leave, he has a busy and stressful job, last week was mega crunch time and he was working silly hours. Next week is much calmer.

It was DD's birthday on Saturday so we both got up early. This morning was his turn for a lie in but he decided he didn't need it so suggested we all go out for an early breakfast, which was lovely.

So AIBU to still take my lie in tomorrow or should I let him have it as he worked himself to the bone last week?!

It's your turn - he chose to forfeit his so he has lost his chance!

He gave up his today. .

Doesn't mean you have to sacrifice yours tomo.

Can you even it out with the late May Bank Holiday? One of you have this one and the other the next...

He should.

Sorry, misunderstood scenario and question

Your turn ! Absolutely !!
He gave up his lie in the daft sod

As the saying goes you snooze (or don't in this case!) you lose !!

Awww. If he wants it I would offer it to him.

I hate point scoring couples. It's not a competition it is a partnership and I would strive to put my DH first as would he me. Your husband gave up his lie in for his family/child today.

You take your lie in its your turn for one he chose to forefit his that his problem.

It's your turn. He didn't want his.

Surely it's whoever is feeling the most tired?

I think it's one of these situations where is it more important to be right or to be happy?
What I mean is that you are entitled to it but it would be a kindness to offer it to your dh

It's your "turn" but I completely agree with PPs who recommend not always keeping score. I've been married a long time and we each look out for the other one's best interests as much as we can. It works really well. Some marriages seem like bickering child siblings. He paid for this, she paid for that, he got the bigger piece of chocolate, she had the red plate yesterday, it's my turn, it's your turn..... I wouldn't feel safe or supported in that kind of relationship.

It sounds bizarrely controlled. Can't whoever is more tired lie in? Or both of you go to bed a bit earlier so you don't need to lie in?

I would give it to him seeing as you're on maternity.

It shouldnt have to be someone's "turn".

It would be a nice gesture to let him have the lie in if you feel like he needs it and you don't.

Your turn but be nice, you had the opportunity to go back to bed this morning too and if he's exhauated....

Meh, me and DP take turns and there's no point scoring or arguing involved, it's just the way some of us work. I'd take the lie in tbh. DP is a muppet who often trades his lie in for some other job he doesn't want to do then bitterly regrets it when I'm having some lovely sleep. I sometimes don't bother with my turn if I've got something in but I wouldn't expect dp to offer me the next one, my decision to not use it.

FFS give your DH a break.

Can you get up with dc and then go back for a sleep when he gets up? Or a siesta?

So are you up or sleeping? As you can see I'm up!!

I'd be hoping he's having it now.

You get the lie in. HWBU for forgoing lie-in for an early breakfast instead of having brunch.

The OP gave hers up on Sat for her DDs birthday, he gave his up on Sunday. Today is a bonus.

Why did he have to get up so early on Sat to go out for breakfast - he could have lead in bed till about 8?