AIBU what's worse is this comparable?

[battgirlatheart]

Straw poll dear friends.
Is sending five messages to a man when single comparable to seven months of messaging flirting and trying to meet up with an ex (16 years younger) when in a relationship? Is it the exact same? As well as lying and meeting up at least twice with a female friend the same one you messaged constantly all through dates and cost nights in etc
Just wondering cos some narcissistic is trying to convince me I'm terrible
I thank you

He's a narcissist, he thrives on attention. Cut him off. Ignore him, it'll piss him off far more than any argument would. All you are doing is showing him that he is so important in your life, and his good opinion is so necessary to you that you have to convince him that you are in the right.