Primary school stopping kids going to the loo!

[babayjane67]

My dd is 8&in yr 3.
Since yr 2 they've been told they have to go in the breaks.
Its been an issue with a couple of kids in her class who have had an accident because they weren't allowed to go!
Now in yr 3 if they ask to go during the morning teacher tells them they should go at home before they leave!even for poo!
This is particularly worrying dd at the moment as she's been going a lot this wk.she nearly had an
accident the other day when she asked if she could go but teacher said no.then dd said I'm desperate now I need to go so eventually she was allowed.
Now today she got up needed to go& was taking a while&said she's got tummy ache doesn't feel very well.
She was also still worrying about not being able to go at school if she needs to go&having an accident!
So as she hasn't eaten much breakfast& still complaining of tummy ache,I've kept her off today.
Is this normal procedure now for schools?
I can understand if it's a child that constantly goes to the loo&spends hrs in there but u can tell the ones who are like that from the ones who are genuine.
Dd has also said that they are kept in at break times to finish their work&make up the time they lost while in the loo if they 'take too long'!
Aibu to think that this is not right?

DD does not ask to go all the time,doesnt get bad grades (her school reports are always very good& last parents evening we had,teacher praised her for always being very enthusiastic,a team player& a good role model for others)she rarely has time off& is certainly not a time waster!

No one has directly said she is. What has been said is that because of those issues, rules may well have to be applied and they have to be applied fairly, as in, to everyone. Your DDs teacher did use their discretion and let your DD go to the toilet once they had ascertained she was genuine. I don't see the problem?

What I do see as the problem is your DD was poorly and you and she were afraid she would have an accident if she went in. As she was poorly anyway, you kept her off, which is wise because if she was poorly enough to have accidents, best not to go in.

If she had gone in, a simple chat to the teacher (or if Secondary, a note in the planner) and they would know to allow her to go if need be, knowing the situation. Teachers are not mind readers.

I don't understand the hyperbole generated.

If she had gone in, a simple chat to the teacher (or if Secondary, a note in the planner) and they would know to allow her to go if need be, knowing the situation. Teachers are not mind readers.

This.
I've had parents let me know their child has IBS and if it flares up they informed me that morning. Whenever they asked that day they went.
Similar situation with utis.

If parents do not let us know we do not know. It's as simple as that.

Any child with a medical issue should have a toilet pass.

I'm a teacher and agree with sailorcherries first post. I'd never not let them go, but for different reasons that they said, I'd make them wait. Occasionally I've taught children who had medical problems, and if they needed to go, I'd let them go straight away.

I'm a teacher and agree with sailorcherries first post. I'd never not let them go, but for different reasons that they said, I'd make them wait. Occasionally I've taught children who had medical problems, and if they needed to go, I'd let them go straight away.

Stupid phone sent message twice 🙄 I think though OP, your DD's school is BU!

This has recently become policy in my dd's school. Also yr 3, she often comes home bursting for a wee because she has forgotten to go at break or lunch as she was too busy playing. She said they are "punished" if they ask to go during class...so she just holds it in...which cannot be good for her bladder! She has also started avoiding drinking water at school!

But it's impossible to tell who is really genuine. Some of them can act it rather beautifully.
Up to year 3 I'm fairly easy going about it. They are expected to go when appropriate and not in the middle of an input if it can at all be avoided.

If I am aware that they have issues holdling on or with infections then they are allowed to go.
From about the age of 8 I do expect them to be able to wait a little AND organise their time to go when they get a chance. Again if I'm aware of any issues then I would react accordingly.
The time between one break and another is usually no more than an hour. I expect most children to be able to go that long without needing a wee.
The in and out of the toilet dance is incredibly distracting to all in the class. It can have a very negative impact on the lesson.
Remember your not just talking bout 1 child but 30. What if they all decide they fancy a walk to the toilet?
In role in a primary school I teach different classes. Am I supposed to know the toilet habits of all those kids??
In my head I compare this to taking my kids on a long car journey. I ask them to go before we leave, in fact I insist even when being told 'I don't need to go now'. I would be massively unimpressed if half an hour into a 3 hour journey I being badgered to go to the toilet.

Another toilet thread. Has the teacher bashing started yet?
I make mine wait until a point in the lesson when it is convenient - usually 15 minutes in - pupils will have had the opportunity on lesson change so should be able to wait 15 minutes.
Pupils with medical cards can obviously go whenever. I find kids pretty honest too " please Miss can I go now I am going to wee myself and didn't have time in changeover as I was late from PE" - of course I let them go. It is discretionary - the year 10 pupil who wants to go every lesson so he can smoke his vape - less so inclined to let him go ...

Happens in my daughters school and she actually wet herself first time in years on way home last month due to this. If you go to the toilet outside of break your name goes on a board and she's afraid of her name going up. So wrong