To ask if you really say fuck off to people?

[tobee]

I often read threads where people have had some stranger interfering, commenting on posters behaviours, actions etc. (You know the type of thread, strangers commenting on your shopping trolley, looks, weight, baby etc. etc.) And plenty of posters add to thread "just tell them to fuck off!" "Tell them to do one!" etc.

But do you actually say this in rl? What happens? Or is it what you were thinking but didn't actually do? I hardly ever confront, partly to keep my dignity, partly because I'd probably go overboard once started!


But I know some people say people should be more assertive.

[limitedperiodonly]

I once forwarded an email to my husband from an irritant we were dealing with, with the single word: 'Cunt'.

As soon as I pressed Send I realised I'd replied instead of forwarding.

He never brought it up. He's still a cunt but sends less cunty emails.

[FrenchJunebug]

Depends. I'll either make a joke or if it is somebody swearing at me usually answer 'have a good day' as they usually have no come back to that other than 'you too' Thus said I have been known to swear at people doing dangerous things when I am cycling in London.

[amusedbush]

I have twice. Once to my granny when I'd just had enough of her horrible, snide comments about my appearance. They happened every time I saw her but this time was on Christmas Day and I'd lost three stone since I last saw her. She made a shitty comment as I ate some vegetable soup about how I "just can't help myself" and I told her to fuck off. She started crying to my dad, acting the victim and saying she wanted to go home. I haven't seen her in five years since that day and it has been blissful.

The other occasion is the only time my friend and I have ever had cross words. She annoyed me and I muttered "oh, fuck off".

Her: "did you just tell me to fuck off??"
Me: "...yeah."
Her: "well... don't! YOU fuck off!"

Then we laughed. That was ten years ago

[UppityHumpty]

I do say fuck you. Sometimes worse. But only when I'm genuinely furious and never with kids.

[MsGameandWatch]

I have told people loudly and forcefully to mind their own business many times. I have autistic children and everyone has an opinion when they kick off in public. It's my default statement, as soon as I get a comment, I don't even need to think what to say it just comes out. I usually say it quite reasonably at first and then just repeat it louder and louder till they piss off.

[BernardsarenotalwaysSaints]

Yes. We had chairty collectors in the street. I'd told them nicely that I wasn't interested 3 times, ignored them knocking another 3 times then eventually snapped. Opened the door & yelled 'will you just fuck off I've told you I'm not interested' she had the cheek to tell me not to talk to her like that...I wouldn't have done had she listened to me the 1st time.

[Toysaurus]

I've said fuck off a few times. Each and every time was when someone started on my child for autistic behaviour. One incident a family of six started harrassing him on a packed train. That was a fun time. I had plenty to say back.

[HereBeFuckery]

Yup. I told a chap to fuck himself, through the use of expressive mime, through a car windscreen after he nearly took the side off my car by pulling out without looking or indicating.
He pulled back over so he was parallel to me, wound his window down and told me not to swear at him. In a really patronising way. If he'd just yelled 'fuck off', I'd probably have ignored him, tbh.

Instead, I enjoyed telling him that since he wasn't my fucking father, nor did being a fucking arsing penis-owner put him in charge of me or my voice, that he could go fuck himself up the arse and while he was at it, learn to drive his cunt-mobile. Including the use of indicators and mirrors, twatbag.
He drove off after that.

[limitedperiodonly]

We told him we were having a night together and there were plenty of other tables, he then insisted he wasn't moving.

That reminds me of a leaving do in a pub ages ago JustaKitten but it wasn't exactly the same.

The female leaver had reserved a big spot in a pub and at first, only women were at her do. About 10 of us. A bloke plonked himself down and wouldn't move when politely asked. The staff weren't interested in telling him to go. He kept mocking our conversation. He was told to fuck off and he replied: 'Make me'.

Then her other friends turned up - 5 men who may have looked a little intimidating, though they weren't and didn't behave in that way. They just asked him to go without swearing and he did, apologising and calling them: 'mate'.

At the end of the night someone discovered her bag had been stolen and it must have been him. I don't know whether his intention from the start was to steal or whether it was petty revenge at being ejected. Weird.

[SabineUndine]

I have twice. Once to a guy who stood right next to me asking for money as I was getting money out of a cash machine. He was trying to intimidate me into giving him £10. Another time to a guy who had trapped me in a corner with his bike because I didn't answer him when he spoke to me.

So, I keep it for special occasions, but yes, I will say it.

[Flimbo]

Swearing at someone is confrontational and if you swear at someone, you can only expect AT LEAST the same level of aggression in return

If you swear at a stranger, for something minor, i.e them saying a flippant comment - then really you have bigger problems - for al you know they could pull out a weapon

[Janey50]

I have only once told a stranger to fuck off. He was reversing his car out of a side road and I waited,he stopped as if to let me cross,which I did,then put his foot down and came straight at me. I shouted at him 'What the hell did you do that for?' He acted all innocent and said 'Do what?' I said 'Stop as if to let me cross then come straight at me?!'. He replied 'Maybe you should realise young lady (sarcasm - I was 50) that the motorist ALWAYS has right of way'. I was like at his arrogance and smugness. I said he should be ashamed of himself for making a disabled person jump out of the way,he just smirked. So I said 'oh just fuck off you arrogant git. And I suggest you check the Highway Code,you will see that the motorist does NOT always have right of way'.

[TimeforANewTwatName]

Flimbo

[limitedperiodonly]

Sometimes people you and they still don't stop

[tobee]

limited

[RhiWrites]

I was once dangerously cut off by a white van when I was on my bike.

I was furious and frightened and screamed "Fuck you!"

The men in the van laughed and one said "any time, darling". I was too furious to trust myself on the road for the next 15 minutes. I could happily have killed him.

[Undercoverbanana]

Hallo. I've finally registered for MN after lurking for many years, just to reply to this post.

Telling people to fuck off has always worked really well for me. I told my boss to fuck off and it was brilliant. HR got involved and it gave me the chance to show them all the evidence I had been compiling of her bullying and downright nasty behaviour. HR even helped me get a new job to get away from her. They also invited me to take out a grievance against her, but she wasn't worth my effort! Such a result!

I am a runner and so have to regularly tell "men", who think they are amusing and interesting, to fuck off. It's quick and easy.

I tell the phone to fuck off every time it rings, but unfortunately, that doesn't always work.

Fuck off is a great expression. I use it liberally.

Now I may have to leave MN for the shame! Thanks for having me.

[ohtheholidays]

Many a time but it's only ever aimed at someone acting like a Tosser so it was well deserved.

What did I do afterwards?Nothing,I stand my ground if someone starts on me or one of my own,usually the person I've said it to then backs off.

[CheesyCrust]

Yes, but my profession can sometimes make Malcom from The Thick of It look like a weakling.

"Get to cunt, you fuck" was a personal best when an ex-boss was desperately in need of a reminder of his place.

[LakieLady]

I was once berated by a man along our road who objected to me parking, perfectly legally, outside his house. When he said "move your car, you stupid bitch" I replied in my poshest voice (which is VERY posh), smiling, "I'm sorry feel like that. Why don't you just fuck off and bother someone who gives a shit?"

I think I was almost indoors before what I'd said had sunk in.

People just don't expect well-spoken old ladies to swear. The shock value is very satisfying.

[ChrisYoungFuckingRocks]

I can't recall doing it face to face (apart from with friends having a laugh), but I have done it plenty of times on the phone. Especially to a well-known window company that keeps calling and won't take no for an answer. I assume everyone knows which one I'm talking about lol. When I answer the phone and they say: Morning, it's Steve from Z Windows, I say fuck off and hang up the phone.

There is a history though - they called the morning after my DH died and started harassing me for money for a window I'd never even received. And then phoned every sodding morning for months insisting I pay from his (non-existent) estate. I just kept telling them to fuck off 'till they got the message.

I found it worked so well I now do it with other cold callers .

[CigarsofthePharoahs]

Yes, fairly recently.
Weirdo in a white van trying to hit on me in a condescending way.
Can't imagine why, I'm a scruffy looking 30 something with a toddler asleep on a buggy.
He docked about as I tried to cross the road and then started making stupid comments out of the window. I didn't have the energy for anything more than an 'Oh fuck off.'
Not my finest moment, but if you're going to make stupid comments to random women who are just minding their own business then you deserve everything you get.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

I tell cold callers to fuck off - very loudly usually

Also told some randomer in the street to fuck off last week because he tried to speak to me twice, presumably to try to get money from me and I was just having a few minutes break from a shit day.

So yes I do it if someone is being a cunt

[tobee]

Hmmm. There's definitely a recurring gender difference theme here, as in men trying to intimidate women etc. - seems to be what provokes responses.

Btw I'm very good at saying fuck off to robot phone calls "our records show you've recently had an accident"