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To go on sick from work?

38 replies

Hotpinkangel19 · 27/04/2017 14:41

Looking for opinions, can take criticism! So much is going on at the moment, my mum only has days/weeks left, I'm so heartbroken and need to look after my poor 75yo dad too who has brought her home to die. My husband is a lorry driver, so away quite a lot. I have 3 DC's and to top it off I never took my pills while mum was in hospital and have just found out I am in the very early stages of pregnancy, but on anti anxiety meds so terrified as I have had a early MC 6 years ago. On Monday I pulled my back at work and if hasn't got better, I can't sit/stand without being in pain... I made a GP appointment today to try and get sorted out, and ended up in tears, and told her everything. She told me to take time off work as I was under a lot of stress, plus coming off my anxiety meds will make me feel awful. I never have time off work unless needed, and I feel guilty leaving my colleagues to work harder. AIBU??

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Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 27/04/2017 20:40

So sorry you're having such a hard time. You warrant a sick note purely for the situation with your mum. Take some time to spend with her and your family and try to look after yourself. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Try not to give work a second thought. Xx

NurseP · 27/04/2017 21:01

Definitely a valid reason for time off work. You will never get this time back with your mum. Look after yourself. X X X

Citizenoftheuniverse · 27/04/2017 21:05

Do as your doctor advises, don't feel guilty.Flowers

BluebellsareBlue · 27/04/2017 21:10

Go sick! My mum has days/hours, I've been in the hospice with her for two weeks, I haven't left her side. I'm hoping desperately she makes it through the night so I can take her home where she wants to be.
Today hasn't been good, she's fought long and hard and only stopped work in January when radiotherapy just knocked it out of her completely. I'm an only child and she is my best friend, I'm lying beside her now as she sleeps dreading the night and I don't know whether to take my med as it makes me sleepy. I'm thinking of you OP xx

Poppyx7 · 27/04/2017 21:18

OP I have had a completely different set of circumstances to you recently but like you needed to take time off because of the stress I was putting myself under at work. Like you I felt guilty at the thought of leaving my poor colleagues to do extra work because I wouldn't be there to do mine if I was to do something as silly as take time out for me! Bottom line, circumstances forced me to take time off. I thought it'd be for a few short weeks, it's now been 11 and I've another sick line due next week for another 4 because I pushed myself too far by not recognising that I needed time out.

OP YOU are the only important person here, take the time that you need to spend time with your family and look after yourself. You couldn't need time off anymore than you need it right now and whether it be days, weeks or months you take so be it. Take the guide from your GP who clearly sees that you need time off. The world won't stop and you certainly won't get any thanks for pushing yourself beyond your limits when you very obviously have other much more important things you should be focusing on right now. Thinking of you Flowers

VerbenaGirl · 27/04/2017 21:32

If your Doctor says take time off, do take time off. You need to look after yourself.

38cody · 27/04/2017 22:54

You must take time off otherwise your body/mind will insist that you do.
And when you do take time off - don't feel guilty to factor in a little solitary time to read, soak in the bath, catch a movie, whatever - you need to give yourself some time.Do it. x

PickAChew · 27/04/2017 22:55

Something has to give Flowers

R2G · 28/04/2017 00:03

Yanbu. Could the doctor not give you a fit for work note

Fletchasaurus · 28/04/2017 07:23

Brew Flowers you most certainly are NBU. Nobody else will care about your health, the only person who matters is you and you need to look after yourself. Nothing else matters!

BlondeBecky1983 · 28/04/2017 07:27

Take the time off, definitely xx

A doctor would sign you off without question in these circumstances. Don't think twice, spend time with your parents. Flowers

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Hotpinkangel19 · 28/04/2017 07:42

Thank you so much, you all are so lovely ❤️will speak to work today. Dr said to self certify for the first week and she will sign me off for whatever else I need.
@BluebellsareBlue I am so sorry xx it's a heartbreaking situation to be in, thinking of you too Flowers

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Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 28/04/2017 08:35

Goodness you're super woman! Take time off!!!!!! You need it now NOT when you are a gibbering wreck xxxx so sorry about your mum xxxx

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