... to expect DH to have no input whatsoever in the colour scheme or decor of our home?

[sandyballs]

because he's got terrible taste and I won't be able to live with it .

We had a bit of a domestic last night as he thinks I'm taking over where the house is concerned, and he suggested quite a few things - colour schemes, furniture, which were just awful, really awful. A couple of them made me gasp out loud and he got really cross .

I know what you mean. I want total control over things like that and it gets me so cross when dp pokes his nose in to matters that don't concern him!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most men have such bad taste imo!!

My dh had a whinge years ago that I never let him have a say in the decor so I told him to go and choose some wallpaper for our rather dark hallway.

Off he trotted pleased as punch with himself and came back with wallpaper with the pattern of a brick wall on it. wtf

I let DH have his choice of carpet once- never again!

Ha ha ha with us it is the other way round - DH is the arty one in our house and picks most things - our new house will be different though as I think everywhere will have to stay the chalky colour it is at the moment or it will look weird!! He is freaking out at me saying I will paint DDs bedroom pink as DSs is already blue and they will be the only coloured rooms in the whole house!!

I have just gone ahead and painted things before though and he has repainted them in a 'more suitable' colour - he didn't like the chocolate wall I did in the bedroom to go with duck egg blue - looked lovely on the telly but not in our 1930s semi!!

nope, not unreasonable at all, dh taste is like his cothes sense,,,oh my fave t-shirt (green) matched with best trousers, (blue) brown belt, blah blah , may sound good, trust me its not! I leave him with 2 choices, this paint or this paint,,,he cant say he hasnt had input - lifes a constant challege

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Oh its not just us then! My DH always wants to help and has TERRIBLE taste - he never thinks about he practicalities of things either.

He went through this phase where he loved polished chrome - all I could see when I looked at it was that I would spend my WHOLE life polishing fingerprints and smears off of it.

Oh and he is obsessed with cream or light beige carpets - how good will that look with milkshake and weetabix on it?

I envy other people whose hubbies arent interested!

if he dares to suggest anything, just give him a look like he's just slapped you in the face and tell him that when you WANT his opinion, you will tell him what it is

I definitely have full control in our house of anything taste-related

DH isn't in the least bit interested. I waiver between releif that I therefore have total creative freedom and choose all the furnishings and do all the decorating, to annoyance that he doesn't wan to have any imput and doesn't care wether the hose is tastefully decorated and furnished, and the bedding complements the bedrooms decor. In his mind as long as he has a bed to sleep in he doesn't care if the bedding clashes ideously with the colour of the walls.

I said dh could have input in what goes up if he provides input into putting it up. So he chose the ceiling light (and turned the air blue keeping his part of the bargain )

Maybe he doesn't like your taste in things either. You have to compromise it is just as much his home as it is yours.

My dh wanted to decorate the nursery, I was well happy with that especially the more heavily pg I got! However he also wanted to choose the colour scheme.

This is the bloke who won't even buy his own clothes because he says he hasn't a clue about style / colour etc. (And he asks me which isn't much better but is a slight improvement!)

I was very but no he wanted to do it himself. He said he wanted to contribute in some way which was nice, really.

In the end I relinquised control entirely and guess what? It looks lovely! Turns out he consulted his Mum, went on a couple of web sites, did research into what goes with what, really sorted it out.

What I'm trying to say is, he might yet surprise you, if you let him choose, but say that you really need it to look good and bang on about how much you are trusting him that it will be a good job, then he will pull out all the stops.

Maybe!

Dh always wants a say in our decor.

Recently we were going to wallpaper one wall in lounge. I knew what would look good. DH didn't like it. I went and got lots of samples, including ones he liked, and blu taced them in place.

Every visitor was asked for their preference....

I got the wallpaper I wanted

Dh knows his place when it comes to choosing colour schemes, that's silently pushing the B&Q trolley and reaching for the credit card. I have asked his opinion on occasion but he gets all panic stricken so I've stopped.

Not unreasonable at all.

All men are born colourblind

Hokey Dokey...this as going to sound contraversial.........

Men have less of the colour receptors in their eyes than women (are they cones?) therefore are not as able to differentiate between different shades and tones of colour, as precisely as a woman.

I am an art teacher and see this in practice every day! Some men can do it, but not as finely as women on the whole.

This is what I tell DH when he tries to input his disgusting colour sense of shit brown and mustard!!!!!!

My partner has no clue about what he likes decorations-wise, but he has lots of ideas about what he doesn't like, which I generally agree with, and he is pretty easy to influence using subtle gentle brainwashing techniques... so I get what I want, even though it takes a long time, and he actually believes he chose...

Used to just do it in our flat with no consultation. Dh understandably got very peeved. When moved said he wanted much more input. Looked forward to sharing workload but soon realised it was never going to happen unless I just got on with it. Told him the plan before I started. Took me 2.5 years to complete with dh regularly complaining he didn't know what I was doing and me reminding him I was only doing what I'd said I was going to do and if he was doing any of it himself there'd be no surprises. He spent 1 hour sanding our bedroom walls (took me weeks of prepping since they were in a horrible state) and that put him off doing any more. Dh finds it all so dull he blanks out DIY discussions and would be happpy if we still had the decor that the owners before last had done 15/16 years ago. Still feel the house is full of compromises though and not entirely my taste. Not sure dh is aware of this.

Unreasonable. Doesn't matter how bad his taste is, still has to be discussed!

DH is far better at this sort of thing, so I can say that.

Fizzbuzz I think the "cone" eye difference is also why men cannot find things in front of them in a drawer or cupboard but ARE better at reading maps.

tell us the awful colourschemes sandy

come on

spill

Unreasonable? - Yes..

Our house would look good if either DH or I decided on our own - BUT looks even better when we compromise..

We have fun, DH suggestions often get poo pooed by me at first, then we work together, tone it down (or brighten it up ) and off we go...

Same when I suggestion something..

We really agree the first time around on anything, but always find something we book really like and looks good..

It's his home too...

Bit unreasonable to totally cut him out of all the decisions. Can't you at least DISCUSS and then just talk him round to all of YOUR ideas?

Flower you made me laugh so much with ths - " came back with wallpaper with the pattern of a brick wall on it. wtf "

Were they like proper red brick colour and everything?

Grumpygirl, my dh can't find things that are staring him in the face OR read maps!

His last attempt at DIY involved putting silicone sealant round the shower without a nozzle because he couldn't be bothered to walk 100 yards to the hardware shop. I wince every time I look at the result . He is now banned from anything like that (and I do wonder if he does things he doesn't like doing badly, just so I won't ask him again!)