Need honest opinions please

[ilovechoc1987]

Growing up my father was abusive and wrecked our childhood.
My brother is a drug addict and an alcoholic , he has a drug and alcohol addicted girlfriend.

Long story short, my brother moved back with my mum about 5 years ago and my dad has moved back with her for 2 years now.
My brothers girlfriend also lives there and her and my brother have a baby together.

Before they all moved back, my mum was happy just living on her own with her dog.
I'd pop round and sometimes she'd have my daughter to stay or go on a bike ride with her, it was lovely, Innocent and I finally saw my mum happy and at peace, after years of stress.

Shes now back to where she was, nervous wreck etc, dog has passed away and due to my brother and her girlfriend and my dad being there I can no longer visit.

My nephew has a child protection order, he's not supposed to be living there, but his mum isn't 'well' to put it mildly.

Since she moved in she has stolen from my mum, first money, then her phone, and god knows what else that my mum hasn't told me about!.

My brother works, but gets pissed regularly and is just a mess, my dad is a chain smoker, just sits in his room all day and works very little.

Basically Iv lost patience supporting my mum through this, she could get rid of them all if she took my advice, but I refuse to be involved anymore.

I would often desert my partner and take my mum out on a Sunday to cheer her up, sacrificing my family life. I just can't do it any more!

Am I being unreasonable?

Aldi thank you for your honesty I can totally relate, it's a hard burden to swallow knowing you have a 'weak' mother that didn't protect you. I honestly don't know why I invest so much time in my mum, I think it's because she was never verbally horrible to me, and she's so soft, too soft if anything.

I would become a real gadfly wrt your nephew. I would be calling SS weekly.

How about the Housing Association - is there any way you and your sister could approach your mum's situation via regulations about occupancy or nuisance or any other avenue in such a way that the three addicts could be removed? (Hopefully the nephew would be taken into care by that stage.)

What a sad situation. I don't blame you for wanting to walk away but I think I'd try and provide a little support for your Mum. She sounds 'useless' but not nasty. Iyswim
Whatever you do is ok though. You must look after yourself and your own family first.