To be annoyed he flirted with me but asked her out

[Rowenadobbins]

I feel so daft for letting this get to me.

There's a guy my friends and I know through our university course. He's been really friendly to all of us and there's been friendly flirting. We would consider him a friend.

He has a student on his course he couldn't stand but who came to all social events. He openly put her down, refused to talk to her and generally showed a complete disinterest in speaking to her or having any interaction with her.

Fast forward 5 months and we all said we would stay in contact. We wondered if he was interested in any of us romantically and we all said if he asked one of us out the others wouldn't mind.

Then, he asks the woman he couldn't stand out!!! He got her number from a guy she knows and asked her for a drink!!!!! He's replied to our messages only and never initiated contact with any of us.

So why flirt and be friendly with us and treat that other woman like nothing only to ask her on the date?

AIBU to be a bit annoyed and confused by this?

She turned him down saying he was rude to her so she has no intention of seeing him again. Not exactly the way to win a woman over is it!

Do you think he just asked her it to make us jealous? Maybe we annoyed him accidentally?

Is he a tutor? You say you know him through a course at uni, and that she's a student of his....? That adds another layer of doucheness to this whole thing... You sound quite young/immature and could do with stepping back and re-evaluating this situation

Erm YABU

Ok I'm assuming you're quite young but there is really no excuse for being so pathetic.

What gamerwidow said, every word.

I'm going to read this as though you're about eighteen and respond accordingly (i.e. without the sneering). He sounds like he's emotionally very young and didn't know how to behave appropriately. Alternatively, and much worse, he may have been trying out PUA moves on her in the hopes that he could manipulate her feelings for him.

In general, he doesn't come out of this looking particularly adorable, and as a result of that, the fact that you all seemed so very taken with him suggests that you also need to adjust your general standards for a potential mate. You deserve better than that, and overall, he doesn't sound like he's worth the brain-space you seem to be giving him, rent-free.

Why don't you suggest some sort of hareem set-up to the others so none of you have to miss out on this demi-god?

What is PUA?

Are you 12 OP?

Vlad😂

PUA is 'pick up artist', it's based on a book and a course I believe that supposedly teaches men how to become players who are irresistible to women.

Techniques include 'negging' which is pointing out negatives about a woman's appearance or behaviour, to create insecurity and make a woman vulnerable to believe that she is fortunate to have anyone, particularly said player man, want to give her attention.

It's a long winded way of being a complete bellend.

KungFuEric
"It's a long winded way of being a complete bellend."

I am so pleased this woman knocked him back.

She sounds fab.

You, this demi-god (as a pp called him -(excellent work pp ) and your mates, all sound bloody ridiculous.

Ahhh, thanks. Kungfu.

He sounds like hes 12.

KungFuEric: It's a long winded way of being a complete bellend.

Yep. Word for word.