Hiding in the bath because I feel like im going to lose it and I really dont want a fight tonight.
Things are really tough right now financially, we are really struggling.
I work full time 40 hrs and he works 20-25 hours at two different jobs, one is a contract of 12 hrs the other is a contract of 8 hours.
We used to put a set amount into our joint account every month to cover rent and bills and that worked good but lately we are living from pay slip to payslip struggling to get by. I will give him his due he doesn't spend anything for himself and his money if we need it goes towards essentials no questions asked.
He got the second 8hr job as the 12 hr job stopped giving him extra hours ( he used to get pretty much full time hours from.them ) this second job promised more hours than the contract so it was going to work out at around full time hours with both jobs.
6 months later still no extra shifts from job ( this was now september time, ) they have since took on 4 new people but are refusing to give any thing other than contract hours.
It dawned on us that he wasn't going to get extra shifts so he told me he would start looking for a new job something with more hours.
He still hasn't found another job and he doesn't seem motivated to, I have asked him and asked him I send him screen shots of jobs all the time, he tells me he applies for loads but now I am not sure if he does.
He got paid at midnight last night and by time we have phoned today and caught up on bills his pay is pretty much gone. I get paid Friday but since he has no money now.I will be paying all of the rent and monthly direct debits.
We have budgeted and are very strict with our money we don't have cars and we walk everywhere. Tonight we were in aldi getting some food shopping and the card was declined. I started getting upset and cried a little bit whilst walking home it just feels like there's no end to it and he just keeps saying itll be fine it's okay.
A few months ago I had a nice little savings pot of 1.5k and even that has gone from catching up on bills and me paying more than he is.
I am sick of nagging him to get another job so I finally said I think I am going to get another job, a bar job, I thought this might kick him up the arse and make.him think hold on I really need to do this bit nope, he said 'if you think then'. I've applied at a job the shifts are 10pm-4am so I'll be working 9am-6pm and then 10pm-4am to be honest I don't care because I am so sick of this stress.
I fell down the stairs at Christmas and have had a very bad ankle injury, I had to go back to work full time way too early because we couldn't afford it and it is having a lot of an effect on my health, I thought me taking another job would be out of the question but he doesn't really care.
I just said I am going in the bath and I said oh I've sent you some jobs you.could apply for them whilst I'm in the bath and he said "erm maybe later ill do.it"
Just dont know what to do , if he could just get full time hours It would help us out a lot but he just doesn't seem to want to 