To hate DPs efo

[Tenerife2015]

So DP has just been for a job interview and phoned me...

Last night I suggested he look at the potential job's website, have a look at their ethos etc so you get to know the place a bit. He says 'nah I'll be fine, cba'.

On the phone, I ask how it went. DP says it went ok, but they asked him why did he want to work here specifically and he struggled to answer. I say 'yeah I thought they might ask you something like that, I you would listen to me when I...' He then cuts me of saying 'I don't have to listen to this I've just had a job interview' I say fine and hang up.

WIBU?

Title is supposed to say ego

I don't know. I'm not sure saying "I told you so" after he just messed up a job interview is particularly helpful.

is he ALWAYS such an obnoxious twat?

Right comment..wrong time imo

Saying 'I told you so' is always potentially obnoxious and will make people arsey

Sounds like it's less ego than a communication problem between the two of you.

YA both BU.

Obviously his attitude to job hunting stinks. But "I told you so" comments are never helpful.

He probably has realised his mistake for himself now. And unless he is a complete knob will not make the same mistake again. Unless you keep going on at him about how if he had listened to you last time things might have gone better and then he might resist advance preparation in a sort of stubborn male pride way.

I advise you to back off and not make any further negative comment on the subject.

You were right in what you said but it wasn't a very good time to say it. Especially as you don't know whether or not he's got the job. Tbh if it were me I wouldn't have brought it up until he's next preparing for an interview and then I would have said something like "have you thought about what answer you'll give if they ask you why you want to work there? Maybe have a quick look on their website for some ideas?" etc. More practical help than an "I told you so", which nobody likes!

Although you were right, the poor bloke has just messed up a job interview and I'm sure he can see for himself that listening to you would've helped him. I think YWBU to say I told you so. It would've been more helpful to be supportive and suggest it again the next time he's preparing for an interview, if you feel you need to say anything about it.

No one likes being criticised and told they were wrong. He had been for a job intrview, which is stressful, then you started nagging him.

He really doesn't deserve that job, with that cba attitude, does he?

What's he like the rest of the time?

I would have said it gently later on in the evening when we're chilled out and chatting.. I think it was tight to do it so soon and in an "I told you so" way. It was never gonna end well!

You said "I told you so" and you're complaining about HIS ego?
The correct response was 'oh dear, that's a shame, still, you'll know for next time'....