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to ask for a puppy as a wedding present??

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:08

from my DP?

he asked me what i want from him, and i said a girl cavalier king charles spaniel

he doesnt want one - but he said whatever i want

should i push it?? its me that would be taking care of it

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hatrick · 11/03/2007 23:10

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hunkerkerplunker · 11/03/2007 23:10

I don't think you should give animals as presents.

Is it a dog he doesn't want or any pet?

hillary · 11/03/2007 23:10

Yes tell him its him or the dog

I'v just bought a puppy & love every moment. Its so much easier these days, they even do these mats to pee on & they actually do pee on them! Fab

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:11

well hes getting me one

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:11

a present, not a puppy i meant

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Spidermama · 11/03/2007 23:11

I wouldn't have one unless it was a joint venture tbh. Is he a dog person? Is said spaniel likely to grow on him. Otherwise it might just come between you.

Tortington · 11/03/2007 23:12

i think its an extravegance you shouldnt afford your selves if money is tight, and could be seen in a bad light (frivolous) by those who have lent you money or paid for things for you to enable the wedding to go ahead.

i think a puppy should wait. and should be frm the NCDL and not a pure breed.

hunkerkerplunker · 11/03/2007 23:12

If DH really, really, really wanted a dog, I'd still say no, cos I don't like the jumping up needy skittery clawed licky feckers.

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:12

we love dogs - he just wants one when the kids are older, but kc's are so docile i dont think theyre would be a problem

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misdee · 11/03/2007 23:13

yes you are.

hatrick · 11/03/2007 23:14

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hunkerkerplunker · 11/03/2007 23:15

I wouldn't have any dog with young children either.

But that's because I think they are jumping up needy skittery clawed licky feckers, quite apart from anything else.

hillary · 11/03/2007 23:16

Its all in the training

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:17

we had a pug whilst we lived with my mum, but we had to stay with my MIL in her 'no pet' place for a few months just before my ds was born and when we moved again he stayed with my mums family because he had lived there all his life and he was soooo attached to my lil sister and cried when we tried to bring him to our house, plus we had new baby and it broke my heart

i miss having a doggy - i couldnt take my pug back though, this isnt his home

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Saturn74 · 11/03/2007 23:18

My sister was bitten by a KCS when she was four.
It went for her from right across the other side of the room, and bit her foot when she was sat on my mother's lap. No provocation at all.
Never been aggressive before, apparently.
Wouldn't trust one around young children.

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:19

everyone will tell you a horror story whatever breed you suggest, i deally i would get a pug, lovely dogs but just too expensive

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Nbg · 11/03/2007 23:21

KL, check the free ads and your local RSPCA.

Saturn74 · 11/03/2007 23:24

Horror story = four year old child with a serious bite right down to the bone, two broken toes and permanent scarring.
If there is a horror story for every breed, perhaps that is something to bear in mind if you also have very young children?

Caligula · 11/03/2007 23:27

Yes you are.

If your DP doesn't want one, then you really shouldn't force him to live with one imo.

OTOH if you really want one, it's unfair of him to make you live without one.

So irreconcilable really. But certainly can't be worked out on a "present" basis. Dogs are living sentient beings, not prezzies imo. Sorry I know that sounds a bit po-faced, but I really think if you desperately want one, then you have to decide together that you'll have one. (a bit like a baby!)

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:31

im not getting into a 'dog near kids debate' thanks - and didnt intend this thread to turn into one thanks.

he wants to wait because he thinks it will be difficult to train with the kids, but ive trained puppies before and its not that difficult if done properly

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BandofMothers · 11/03/2007 23:32

If he doesn't want one, it's a bad idea.
DH wanted one so we got a Jack Russell on the premise he would train it, care for it etc.
Yeah right. I don't like dogs much. And I came down every morning to piss and shit all over the kitchen. She was sweet, but a great big chore.
She lasted 5 months, then I found her a nice new home.

hillary · 11/03/2007 23:33

I'm at home alone with two dd's under 3 we have a new puppy and the training is working out well, he's 98% house trainned, has his own quarters etc. We all enjoy it very much

Saturn74 · 11/03/2007 23:34

Whatever, but I found it annoying that an incident where my sister was attacked by a dog was dismissed by you with the trite comment "everyone will tell you a horror story whatever breed you suggest".

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:37

but its true - if i wouldve said i would like a 'bischon frise' someone wouldve posted a similar incident involving one of those.

out of entire breeds there will always be a 'bad dog' that bites, but that doesnt condemn the whole breed does it? and doesnt mean i should avoid that breed because one dog bit someone. a dog of every breed will have bitten someone, somewhere at some point - doesnt mean no-one should own a dog!

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kittylette · 11/03/2007 23:38

but thats not what i was posting about,and im sorry about your sister, it mustve been awful,

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