AIBU to expect to know my Partners plans?

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We live together and are expecting a child. He only ever lets me know he is off out to do something last minute, which as a planner drives me nuts as it is, but AIBU to expect him to let me know when he is coming home? Yesterday he left at 3pm and came back at 11pm, not a single text or anything.

I'd like him to tell me his plan in advance because then I can make my own, as I try to do things to fit around his schedule so we can spend time together. His opinion is we live together so we see each other everyday as it is, so doesn't see an issue.

I don't think you are being unreasonable.
My partner always let's me know where he's going in advance.

On a bit of a tangent but important nonetheless.
Will you be dependent on him financially after the baby comes ?
I do hope the answer is no if you aren't married.
If the relationship falters you could find yourself in a very vulnerable position .

I will be able to manage, I have ML from work and will be going back in 9 months.

@filledsoda I know lol, apologies, I tried to keep it short and get my point across and just made it longer. No I won't be financially dependant upon him. I work. He does buy somethings, he did buy me a car my last birthday and he pays the gas and electric bills but I pay all the rent and council tax etc..

Sorry wrong thread - how embarrassing lol

Sorry, but I think being a parent will be a big shock for you, OP. When you need a little support and your flatmate/DP is out and about enjoying himself.

He sounds more like a flatmate than a partner

My DH does not need my permission to go out , but that's not what you want either. He tells me where he's going and that's all I need
Like me, you simply want to know if he's out and when roughly he will be back. That's common courtesy.

We have a shared Google calendar where we put stuff so that we don't have to ask

Does he huff and puff if you're not at home and he's left all alone wondering where you are? Does he answer the phone if you ring him?

My DP was a bit like this until I put my foot down and told him if he wanted to be single he could go and fucking be single then. I went a bit mental actually but he realised I meant it. Now he always tells me where he's going and when he'll be back. Give it to him with both barrels before the baby comes is my advice.

No he doesnt huff and puff but has no reason to, unlike him I always say if I'm going to be late or similar.