To have just fu@ked my DH out of the house?

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Just found my DH's second hidden phone for the 2ND time. Long story, 2 years ago found out he had a second phone (had suspicions he did after catching him and his best mates wife texting each other on his own phone) worked through it (took a very long time). Moved to a new house in June last year, everything was great. Started IVF in Nov last year (didn't work). In second cycle now and it's worked but very very early days. Started having suspicions this weekend he was again hiding something and yep about an hour ago I found the second phone. Turfed it at him and told him to get out. He's saying he's not screwing around but wouldn't show me what was on the phone. So very early stages of pregnancy and looks like I'm going to be a single parent (if I can manage to hold onto my wee magic bean). Aggggghhhhh

I'd love to be able to stay where I am as we just moved house last year but I'm not sure if it's going to be financially possible. Withbeing self employed my work is not always constant. I definitely can afford to buy him out so I'm going to have to reconsider my options. I'm not adverse to moving all together as country. Think solicitor is my first step to see exactly where I stand.

I barely ever post here but from your replies I just wanted to say wow, you are so strong, you have inspired me tonight.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and although it must be so difficult try your best to stay calm. You deserve so much more than him and even though it hurts now, you'll be so much better off without him

Are you close to your dad? Would you be able to go over there for a while?

Try to stay as calm as you can. There is no rush to get things sorted. Rest as much as possible and enjoy the feeling of the little miracle growing inside you. When he or she is born you won't care about anyone else anyway.

Oh the lying deceitful sack of shit. The absolute best of wishes for the little bean.

@Imperial. Whilst I live my dad dearly, he is a complete waste of air. He's currently shacked up with his las test girlfriend (although it has been a while) he has no steady income. My sister lives in the states too with my niece (his only grandchild) about 1 hrs drive away from him and they see him once a year if they are lucky. My family over here (mums) side don't speak to me for reasons unknown to me apart from my nan. So I guess I'm doing this one solo! Finances are the first thing that's going to have to be sorted and then figure it out from there. We also have 3 dogs so I can see a battle over one of them (middle one, his dog but my baby) I have a feeling he'd take him just to be a complete fucker.

I found making lists good for the practical side and to stop my brain racing at night.Solicitor is a good idea but some things will depend on baby bean and staying calm ATM may mean you just let the dust settle for a few weeks more(not sure how far you are).Also sending baby glue!

*love!!

What sort of dogs are they?

A Dachshund who belongs to me, Staffy which is his but is my baby and a 6 month old bulldog.

Best of good fortune to you and little bean, OP. I was a single parent who split up before I knew I was pregnant and didn't have my family near either. But absolutely no complaints.