To be upset at racial abuse directed at my two year old?

[JustAKitten]

My 20 month old is white and Indian. I'm white.

I'm quite vocal politically, and I'm very left wing. It's not everyone's cup of tea, I get that.

The other day, we received racial abuse via Facebook (I was called a race traitor and a P slur was used towards DP), which is unreasonable in itself, but then the moron decided to say something along the lines of "I feel sorry for your kid. Not one thing or the other. What a shame, poor bastard!"

This has pissed me off way more than anything said to us.

He's not even two and someone's already made a racist remark to him. AIBU to be really upset about it? My family told me to ignore it and it's okay because he doesn't understand or even know what's been said, but to me, it upsets me that to these assholes even innocent kids are considered acceptable targets.

AIBU? Not sure what I'm looking for, just a vent.

And regarding the "not one or the other" comment, surely one of the advantages of being mixed race is that you are both! I say this as a mother of a mixed DS and a (mixed) DD on the way.

Report to the Police - I saw a thing on the news that many women politicians are being bullied and abused online and that the Police are taking it seriously since the Jo Cox case

OMG that is disgusting, both my half sisters are half Indian and I'd smack anyone in the mouth for saying that.
Report to facebook, racial abuse is not allowed on there.

OP, bless you and your little boy.

So out of order, it's unreasonable, I'd say screen shot and report, even if nothing comes of it, that behaviour is unacceptable.

DP is both mixed race and a Police Officer and any racial slurs are completely unacceptable. If it was addressed to a child, they would be less than happy. Please report, even if just to FB.

My own family are very casually racist, they used to pass a black woman and say 'Is that Mr User's Mum?' My sister would say he looks 'spicky' to this day I am unsure of what race that even refers to It needs addressing with immediacies for them to accept it won't be tolerated.

Ignorance breads ignorance, raise your child too embrace differences and you have done your job well.

Take your kids photos off of your public social media profile.

If your going to be politically outspoken you are leaving yourself and your family open to all kinds of abuse (which is obviously wrong)

Op, 2 of my DC are half Indian half white. I'm sorry this has happened to you and your son
Thankfully we haven't had much apart from the odd raised eyebrow and even one little old lady saying "it's ok, you can't really tell [they're not white]"

OP I would also urge you to report, if you feel you can. DH was walking home when a group of teenagers yelled a racially offensive word at him. I reported it online here: www.report-it.org.uk/your_police_force and I was called back with 20 minutes. The police invited Dh in for an interview, got all the details, checked cctv and talked to local businesses on the road he was walking along. They told us if they found the teenagers, it would have gone to court. They took it really really seriously, so please don't be put off thinking they won't be interested. For what it's worth, what Dh had yelled him was something people generally (but wrongly) think is less offensive than the 'p' word and it was still taken very seriously.

And answer your AIBU, I would be and have been beyond furious when people have directed comments like that at my children. That's why Dh and I finally reported his incident after countless others. Scum who think it's ok to talk to people like this need to know it isn't ok and won't be tolerated.

Why are you even friends with this
Vile fuck

I would screen shot and let them know it's a hate crime - up to you if you report or not

Lovelilies I got 'you sort of look a bit Chinese.'

That person was going out of their way to hurt you - and that was the worst thing they could think to say. It just goes to show how sad their lives are, and how out of place their views are in the modern world.

If your child wasn't dual heritage they would have found something else horrible to say - because they are a sad, spiteful, pathetic wreck of a human. It wasn't even really about your child, it was about them. What kind of person is mean to a baby?

I'm sorry this happened to you.

How absolutely horrible!

I'm relieved to hear the police are taking racial abuse seriously these days. Please do report.