Worst thing about being a mother

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Where is it? What happened to it?

waitrosepigeon

I just needed to get that out there about the shit 💩💩💩

That thread pissed me off but I didn't comment on it.

Serious answer losing them although I'd still go back and do it again just for the short time.

Appropriate answer, I haven't had a wee or a bath in peace for 11 years.

Knowing that they won't need you one day

The judgement of if you work or not (lose-lose situation)

The expectation from others that your child must be perfectly behaved and the insinuation you're an inadequate parent when you're not.

When it's four o'clock in the morning and you haven't yet slept but you know that there's no getting out of the seven o'clock get up.

'In my day', 'He needs a good telling/smack', 'When mine were that age I (insert ridiculous expectation)'

When they just won't stop crying and you want to put them away for an hour but you realise you can't

Always feeling like you could do more or could do better
Not being able to devote sufficient time to succeed at either work or parenting and feeling under par at both
Competitive parenting - try to ignore the stealth boasts of 'oh my DC have spent hours doing extra maths and science this Easter'

Popping out to shop is a military operation.
When they fall and hurt themselves, or if they are ill

GoGo in some ways they need you more.

The worry and the worry gets worse as they get older and then it's the grandchildren

But why did the other thread get deleted!!!!!!

If it's the thread I am thinking of, it was started by someone who actually wasn't a parent and didn't have DC yet and seemed designed to annoy and goad MNers. You know, what with calling us all "horrible cows" or something...

Btw I'm not saying people who aren't parents aren't welcome on MN, there are some fab posters here without DC and I like that, but it's a bit to declare you have discovered the absolutely very worst thing about being a parent when you're not a bloody parent. Especially when that thing seemed to be being judged for drinking Diet Coke, as opposed to actually really quite bad things like DC being ill, which their misleading title implied.

Sleepless nights.

Really, after 11 years of parenting, nothing has even come close to the hell of sleep deprivation.

For me it was the constant early starts and having demands made on me immediately instead of easing into the day!

That does get better once they are teens [grins]

The relentlessness of it. It just doesn't stop. And always having to be responsible. And the sleep, even now at three the sleep.

Still the best thing I've ever done with my life ❤️

The early (baby) hell days of sleep deprivation- especially when you've got to get up at 6 anyway with a bouncing toddler who doesn't care that the baby kept you up all night. . I've only recently left this phase (2 year old and 10 month old).

Ah yes, that thread. Where the OP appeared to have a point and ended up being a confrontational dickhead with an attitude problem.

Worry, worry, worry.

Mess, mess, mess.

POO!! Even with an 8 year old (SEN) had to clean her up for the third time today just before bed..
It's a never ending poo machine.

The worry. I suffered/suffer really bad anxiety about cot death. It keeps me awake constantly

Exsisting merely to be the support crew.

Oh god, yes to the sleep deprivation. It's been so bad for us that I tell people I could join the SAS - I'd breeze through that bit where they pretend to capture you and subject you to sleep deprivation and see if you'd crack. I could take it and laugh in their faces while I was at it!

That and the feeling of being touched out. I always seem to have someone constantly holding my hand/cuddling/sitting on my knee/wanting carried. It sounds horrible, but I get to a point where I can't take it any more and go to the toilet/shop by myself just to escape the constant touching.

And from the other end of the journey, the total silence once they cheerily wave goodbye and go off to lead new independent lives and you become a weekly phone call (if you're lucky and they have time).

When they're sick or hurt.
When you have to leave them at nursery before they've settled and they cry and you can't comfort them because you have to go to work.

unborn

Carrying that tiny pink coffin down the crem

The utter and horrific loneliness as everyone's lives move on and you get left behind or forgotten by the people who used to be friends.

The constant worry about everything and having to make decisions for them hoping it's the right one.

I'd still do it all again, love my little girls and they are worth everything

Knowing that one day they will leave home.

Fearing that you could lose them.

The constant anxiety that plagues my day. I was never warned about it, and it's the only thing I don't enjoy about being a parent.

Heartbroken for the parents in this thread who suffered a loss

I only started this as a nosey to see what happened to a strange thread I had been reading. To read your comments does put it all into perspective. It's truly a blessing to be a parent and I do feel that every day. I hope this wasn't taken as flippant and thoughtless x