To find pre-planned wedding dance routines a bit tacky?

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Has anyone seen the videos doing the rounds of the wedding dance routines? has anyone BEEN to a wedding where a prepared dance has taken place? These are the kinds of things I mean

DH and I did one. Well, not an extravagant one like these, more we went to dancing lessons and learned an elegant waltz routine to our song.

It was fun, our guests seemed to enjoy it (at least we had lots of compliments) and it gave us a lovely video to watch back. Plus learning to ballroom dance was fun.

Ugh seven minutes of cringe making boringness.

Thank fuck I've never had to witness one of these in person, - I would actually cringe myself to death if I did. Can't even bring myself to watch the videos.

Physical pain. I felt physical pain watching that.

But then I am a recluse that would rather die and crawl up my own arse than do (or even witness) such cringy flappy stuff.

They make me think of Glee and the wedding episodes there.

I think if you're a performer and that's your passion, why not go for it. It isn't hurting anyone.

I was at a very Catholic wedding where an "interpretative dance" was performed as the groom sung a psalm. To be fair, the groom has a very good voice and he sung it unaccompanied, but we struggled to keep a straight face as the 'dance' (performed by 3 women in the aisle) was cringe worthy at best.

Things lightened up though when 3 year old DD decided to join in.

I love it! I'm going to a wedding this summer where the bride is a dancer. I'm secretly hoping for a big dance routine!
I've been to a couple of weddings where the b&g have asked a few friends in advance to get up and dance after their first dance and I've done that

God yes cringe central. I particularly hate when they dance and wiggle their way down the church aisle. It's a church ffs, have some decorum! I am an atheist btw so its not a religious objection.

My little sister had a choreographed swing dance for their first dance. However, to be fair, they met in a swing dancing club and they are both very good so it didn't look obviously choreographed.

I think if you are very very good and polished and the music is good and it doesn't go on tooooo long, it's OK.

It's when it gets all self indulgent and it's a bit crap I don't like it. And I'm not keen on the bride or groom sitting on a chair like a hostage victim.

Jesus! How self absorbed!
Then again the idea of people looking at me on my wedding day fills me with anxiety. I've never understood the whole "it's all about meeee" idea

I think that the J&K one is rather lovely and joyful - they're clearly not taking themselves too seriously and they all look like they are having fun. It was original at the time too!

I've been at a wedding where the b&g first dance was a heavily rehearsed affair with dips and twirls - thing is the took it all a bit seriously and they weren't actually very good,it was very cringe!

The original video was posted back in 2009. So 8 years ago at this point.

It's hardly a new thing is it? Yabu for posting about an ancient topic.

I actually prefer the second one because it seems like they're not taking themselves too seriously. I think it's inappropriate in a church though. The first one is just awful. Definitely a dance for the honeymoon suite.

I like the ones where it just looks like family and friends having fun (whether choreographed or not), not so sure about the lap dance one right at the beginning; bit embarrassing for her father etc I would think.

One of my jobs is a fitness instructor and I'm quite happy to stand up in front of 30 plus people with a head mic on and teach a class. However the thought of slow dancing in front of everyone at my wedding fills me with horror!

Bubbins I think I was at the same wedding as you

Everyone else was ooh-ing and aah-ing, and I was there wondering why they couldn't have just done the usual 3 minutes of awkward swaying like most people do.

Ohgod, I've seen one of these in real life. I cringed so much that I actually disappeared inside my own arse from the bum-clenching.

It was Beyonce's "Single Ladies", which was a ridiculous choice, because surely the groom HAD liked it and thus put a ring on it.

So, dumb as well as cringe.

They're cringeworthy but I love the spoof royal one by T Mobile. Everyone is just copying them!

My cousin did a proper dance with his new wife - a big Strictly-style ballroom routine. Cousin had been having secret lessons.

It was actually really sweet and charming!

The second one, where they're dancing down the aisle was because the bride had no family to walk her down and so wanted to do something different.

The other one YANBU it was tacky and the groom seemed embarrassed.

I've told my bf if we ever marry I'm doing the dirty dancing final dance. He says it's fine but it won't be with him!

Honestly though, I think a wedding is best if it's you and has meaning. If that's a big show and dance fine, if it's simply vows and a quite meal fine.
I hate people trying to be cool or doing something just to be different. I think then it comes across as being too try hard.