Should I try to have a baby?

[DollyFlop]

At 30 I was told I would never conceive naturally.
I had loads of unsuccessful treatment.
At 34 I did conceive naturally, and I am now mother to the most amazing human that has ever walked the face of the earth 😉
I resigned myself to having an only child after what can only be described as a grieving process, which took a number of years.
Now I have been unexpectedly offered cash to have egg donation.
Pros: I really want more children; my son really wants a sibling; I feel bad that if we get old and infirm then all of the care and stress is on my son
Cons: I am 41 and would be 42 at least at the sprogging; I know from bitter experience that ivf seldom works; would I feel weird about egg donation (my own eggs are hard boiled, so no use thinking about them) ; would it be weird bearing children that weren't full siblings to my child. I worry that I would feel different

Gotta say I've a 7 year gap and whilst we muck around sometimes, 7 years makes a big difference in where people are in life can't really think of anytime I've felt I could go to them with an issue I was having, as when I was a teenager they were an adult and more mature, and even as adults they're ahead

I'd go for it! 7 years sounds like a great age gap, big enough that there's no competition between them as kids and small enough for them to have lots in common by their 20/30s.

The age gap between my sibling and I is around that and it has been terrible. There was always competition (though this was mostly precipitated by a step-parent, which wouldn't be the case here). We're now in our 20s/30s and have absolutely nothing in common. Nothing.

Plus, biology matters not a jot to siblings. My sister is technically a half-sibling but we're 100% sisters.

My sibling is technically a half-sibling and we're around 5% siblings. Though genetics is less a factor here than the experience of growing up together with such an age gap and such rivalry.

The thing is, OP, your son won't have anyone to play with if you have a baby anyway. By the time the baby is old enough to want to start playing with him, he'll find the baby (toddler) annoying and will not want to play the sorts of games that the toddler will be interested in. That's the reality of that sort of age gap.