Background:
DPs family live in London and DP works Monday - Friday in London and home to us at weekends - we live approx 2/3 hours away.
DFIL has been admitted into St George's today for an operation with the intention of removing prostate cancer, when DP called this morning DFIL requested to speak to DS who is four, DFIL really sounded awful on the phone and very apprehensive as can be expected, he was asking DS to let Mummy or Daddy know when he would like to visit DFIL and for us to take DS. If I am honest we do not see enough of DFIL, at present neither myself or DS have seen him since September last year. I am always more than willing to take a trip to visit however the offer is very rarely there and due to the distance we would obviously have to stay overnight, anyway after years of bickering with DP over it I've realised it's not his fault and DGPs will see DS very much on their terms and ultimately it's only them who will miss out on their grandchild.
I spoke with DFIL this morning too, and said if seeing DS would make him feel better then I am more than willing to put him in the car and make the journey, he just needed to say the words and we would be there. DFIL didn't really answer and I could tell his mind was elsewhere understandably and perhaps he doesnt expect us to make the journey but would like to see DS. DP said there was no need for us to visit. But, WWYD? Should I of packed some bits and jumped in the car? Obviously I don't want DFIL to feel like we haven't bothered to visit but neither do I want him to feel like we are imposing. Slightly harder to make the call as he's not my father and we are expecting him to have a catheter fitted so don't want him to be uncomfortable with us there.
Do you think it would be a nice surprise for him to see DS? Or are we best staying clear until invited?
Sorry for waffling!