To expect DH to take me at my word?

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This feels so petty but comes up SO often and really gets on my nerves. He takes things he reads or that other people say as fact, but not me. Like he thinks I'm lying all the time?! It's often on a totally unimportant subject too.

e.g. this morning...
Me: 'the new Aldi chocolate isn't is good as the old stuff.'
Him: 'It hasn't changed' (he doesn't even EAT it)
Me: 'Er, yes it has. It's a different shape for a start! And it doesn't taste the same.'
Him: 'But if it had changed it would say 'new recipe!''
Me: 'Not necessarily... Trust me, it's different, ok! Why can't you just believe me for once?! Not that it even matters!'

Aargh. Facepalm.

Dh does this and when I pull him up on it he says he isn't.

RedSkyAtNight That's partly why it is so annoying that he challenges my every word - he spouts all sorts of stuff as fact despite mostly making it up on the spot! I've been challenging him more and more with 'how do you know?' responses but he'll argue black is white even without a reliable source... Sigh.

Sometimes I stick to my guns with something (very rare in the case of general facts as I always doubt myself) and have on occasion looked up the answer to prove I'm right. He just ignores me.

What was funny one time was having a language usage argument where I knew I was right (language is one of my few stronger points!), told him so, he point blank wouldn't believe me. Later I found out (accidentally) that he'd looked it up for himself. No word of apology, of course...

He does love arguing though. He would happily have a 'yes it is,' 'no it isn't' argument all day long despite no new info being brought forward at any point. This just infuriates me. What's the point of arguing if you know you can't get anywhere? In the days of google this really is so pointless!

Not DH but late very lovely MIL.
I qualified as a nurse when DH and I were courting (1970's speak) .
MIL ..... 'look at FIL's arm, where the cat scratched him yesterday'
I look at the very obvious developing cellulitis and suggest a trip to either doctor or A and E for antibiotics and tetanus shot.
MIL ..... (condescendingly) 'Bless ya Maras but nurses don't know everything.I'll do a bread and gravy poultice.Always works a treat for
us.'
Cue next day.FIL in hospital on an antibiotic drip plus 3 times daily jabs in his bum.Fortunately not in my training hospital.Hey ho.
As they say rinse and repeat for the next 40 plus years.
She did have lots of redeeming good qualities though.And we loved her very much.

what would he respond if the conversation went:

Me: 'the new Aldi chocolate isn't is good as the old stuff.'
Him: 'It hasn't changed' (he doesn't even EAT it)
Me: Why do you feel the need to contradict me at every chance you get?

WhereYouLeftIt I have tried that...can't remember his exact response - something vague, probably - but I know it didn't get me very far.

Oh god.
My dh likes to think he is always right. Regularly reminds me he is always right.
Granted he knows a lot about general knowledge and things he's learnt from tv. I'd never dispute his knowledge of machinery.
But! When it's something I KNOW like something sciencey or to do with animals,
He will argue and argue against all my facts and proof until I say "bloody Google it."
He then Googles it and goes "well. I'm always right."
No. You're always a dickhead.
i always call him out on it, because he should trust and believe me.

My dh used to do this. So instead of letting him I demanded he Google it if he wasn't sure if I was right. The questioning soon stopped

This happens alot in my house convo usually goes:

Dh "black is defo white"
Me "no it isnt"
Dh "urm yes beesh it is"
Me "really? I didnt no that, how did that happen"
Dh "well back in the 1500s a man named donald twat started his period and adopted an elephant, during this time...."
Me - walked out of room twenty mins ago made a cup of tea sat down mumsnetting.

omg meek I feel your pain

Uppity I try this more now. Sadly the worst ones are when we're driving/in the middle of nowhere and my phone won't google things without wifi coz it's stupid

It's funny when the come home and say 'Dave said The circus is coming ' 'I know I told you two days ago'
'No you didn't'

Or we should go to X on holiday'
Then 3 days later 'I asked Steve about X and he said'

AHhhhhh just stop

Reading this thread has made me so angry. Why do people do this?? My 'favourite' was a woman I worked with who would contradict herself for the sake of contradicting me. For example,
Her "Then he didn't even pay me back, I was so pissed off!"
Me "yeah, you must have been pissed off!"
Her "Well, I wouldn't say pissed off exactly, but a bit annoyed."

Her "I'm so excited for the work party!"
Me "yes, it should be great!"
Her "Well, I wouldn't say great, exactly. I suppose it will be alright."

I think I put up with it for about a month, before I started going "But you just said you were pissed off, which one is it? Are you ok?" and blinking at her a lot. She didn't like me very much after that

I'm so glad its not just me!!! My favourite example, when dh was leaving our car (which I drive more often) in for a service...
Me: tell them to check the starter, its not quite right
Dh: it starts fine for me
Me: it starts fine sometimes, and sometimes it won't. Its temperamental, so its not quite right.

He never told the mechanic to check the blessed starter; he didn't believe me! Next day, he picked the car up, the mechanic goes, "you need a new starter"

Wa ha ha ha ha ha!!

The other day DH said 'I'm going to nip down and get my car washed '
Me 'OK'
DH much prefers my car said 'can I take your car?'
Me 'you can but ....'
OK 'see you later.....'

That went well!!

Daphne I know someone like that. I think it must be a reaction to people you don't like much though, cos I've found myself doing it on occasion, with a certain few people...

Out ahh sweet victory