A while ago I started a thread with regards to my fiancé's relationship with his parents following his mother's death. This is my thread.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2881126-Advice-needed-about-bereavement-and-family-fall-out?pg=7&order=
Following the thread my fiancé and I had a chat and he told the reason things were so strained was that as his dad was abusive towards his mother which culminated in his
mother running away one night leaving him and his sister with his dad. She came back after a couple of months and things carried on as normal. Basically their relationship has never recovered.
He did end up going to the funeral but wanted to go in his own, he sat at the back
and his father ignored him the whole
time. But it was done and now he wants to move on.
Anyway when I read some of the responses to my original thread I realised that me trying to include his mother in the plans
was wrong. I really thought that this was the best thing at the time, but I see that this could have been perceived as insensitive and thoughtless as some people pointed out. I couldn't stop thinking about this and
last week we cancelled the wedding. We are going to get married with just the two of us there in a registry office. We've paid my mum back the deposit and can't really
afford to buy new stuff for the wedding. It was too late to cancel my dress. So yesterday I picked it up. It's a typical strapless, corset back dress. The thing is is it too much for a registry office wedding, will I look silly?