Discovered my H of 15 years has cheated on me with dating sites, Craigslist, and various prostitutes over the course of our marriage and also during his previous long term relationship. This was a complete shock to me as I thought my H had the same moral values as me. We had been through difficulties, like most marriages, and felt we'd come out the other side stronger. I truly loved him and he often told me how much he loved and valued me.
After Dday I looked up a counsellor who specialises in 'sex addiction ' ( if indeed the condition exists) and 'post affair trauma '. The idea was we saw her once as a couple and then individually.
We had only been in her consultation room 5 minutes and she came out with the statement " maybe Mr Notlovedenoughmyarse didn't feel loved enough and felt he had to validate himself sexually with others"
AIBU to feel annoyed by this analysis of our relationship? I didn't say anything at the time but I felt she implying I was partly culpable for H cheating. I believe if my H hadn't been happy and fulfilled in our marriage he should have communicated that to me rather than shagging random strangers.
My H is still receiving counselling from this therapist but I am reluctant to go back.