to be hacked off that DH...

[bakedpotato]

is off to 'the rugby' tomorrow -- so will be out of the picture from about 11am till 6.30?
a/ he only informed me about this on Fri night ie, too late for me to make plans to see anyone else
b/ he says he emailed me instructions to put this in the kitchen diary (as if it's my job to be his social secretary)
c/ he did email me about 3 days ago but in the context of 'outside chance I'll be going to the rugby'
d/ he has absolutely no interest in rugby

hope he did look then he would read how much support you have that he was wrong - may be look at himself in mirror and change!

You are lucky he was back at 6pm(!)my dh went to the Rugby yesterday,we live 1 hour from London,he left at 8am and got back at 11.30pm.Appaarently it is just because i ama girl(!)that I can't understand why a man of 43 cannot say after the match that he doesn't want to go back to the pub byut has commitments and needs to head home.He did go with work contacts and I know there was an element of networking but I work too but don't feel the need to be constantly rewarded because of the amounts of hours I work!
Last week he had a completion dinner at Gordon Ramseys restaurent and that meant he didn't get back until5.30am and the week before he took his group out for big do in London also not back until early morning.I hate being classed as the moaning wife but i feel like one!!!
I don't expect him not to go to these things just to knowwhen to stop,I have a really busy week at work this week plus really busy with childrens things buyt you can bet if I ask for help he "just can't do anthing this week as really difficult with work"Aghhhh

Philly, that does seem OTT. I'd be steaming.

Yes, it goes against the grain to duck out of family life at weekends -- but I do see now, I have to do it to stop myself blowing up. I have to make the mark in the calendar.

As soon as I realised this, I stopped resenting him so furiously and wishing it would rain on his blinking rubgy match.

Mind you I still couldn't be arsed to ask him if it was fun/who won. As if I care...

actually he really isn't awful and he does love me and compared with a lot of his contemporaries he does a lot with the children its just the fact that when he does go on these things he can't seem to combine them with normal life.i mean in a similar situation i would have gone at the last minute and left at a reasonable time because i just would have felt guilty at leaving him on his own whilst i had a good time.he says this is ridiculous but it just us true.i did go shopping on saturday for a couple of hours but helt guilty and that i was taking advantage by going to tescos!!!!

also it is not just guilt it is just the sheer number of things that need doing for the children eg costumes to make for friday,statementing forms for ds2 to be done asap,homework,all the usual washing,sorting out babysitting to go to ds1's concert on Thurs etc etc and I he never seems to worry that because he is socialising none of these things will get done,I suppose he doesn't need to because I am doing it!

I'm about to suggest that we ALL go to the Rugby on Sunday. I have no interest in it whatsoever, but I do want to spend my Mothers Day with my family.

Ha! And he won't be able to go to the pub with his mates all night long!

Yes, ph, women like that in effect create the behaviour of the men by their tolerance and acceptance. Who will pick up their own stuff if people do it for them? So people need to ensure they don't in effect reward the behaviour they don't like.

I dont get the problem?

Is he never allowed a day off?

Why should he feel guilty?

Oops

The rugby was a long time ago huh