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Original poster

AIBU to make him see the doctor

67 replies

Steggers123 · 18/04/2017 07:34

My husband is 47, he has been taking medication for high blood pressure since his late twenties. His father had a major heart attack at 39 and two of his uncles did not make it past their fifties (fatal cardiac arrest in both cases). He has just told me that during the night he had chest pain lasting for about an hour which was so severe he thought he was having a heart attack. It passed and he is in no pain now, but I think he should go and get himself checked out by the doctor. Am I being hysterical?

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allowlsthinkalot · 18/04/2017 09:29

This happened to my Grandad. He drove to the GP in the morning. The GP called an ambulance and he was admitted to intensive care.

Your dh is a selfish arse. Can you send an ambulance to his place of work?

holidaychocs · 18/04/2017 09:30

All chest pain should be seen by dr. I would even send a female who claims it's just breast pain etc.

kingscrossnoodle · 18/04/2017 09:34

I hope he is ok OP. My DH is exactly the same when it comes to medical issues as well.

WitchQueenofNewOrleans · 18/04/2017 09:44

My Dad had a swollen hand. He didn't know it but his heart and kidneys were failing. He had a fatal heart attack after climbing the stairs to go to bed.

Dad was in his 90s, and had had a long life. Your DH is young OP and needs to go to a&e as soon as he can so has the best chance he can.

hollyisalovelyname · 18/04/2017 09:46

It happened to my bil.
He almost died.
He did make it to A&E.
He was in the throes of a heart attack.
The doctors told him he was very very lucky.
He had a quadruple bypass.
His life has never been the same.
Like your dh he didn't listen to advice from his dw.

nonamehere · 18/04/2017 09:48

Tell him about my husband - he had 'indigestion' during the night, and despite a history of angina, didn't want to make a fuss. Not wanting to cause him more stress, I complied - he died.

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anahata · 18/04/2017 10:00

Have you thought about calling an ambulance to go to his work?

I had a similar conversation with my other half last night. I very bluntly told him that if he was in a car accident on his way to work, they'd manage without him.

I'm so sorry to be blunt, but as he is valuing his work over his health and leaving you terrified, that would be relationship threatening for me.

Really good luck.

Original poster
Steggers123 · 18/04/2017 10:05

I spoke to 111, since he is not in pain now and it is a few hours since the pain subsided it's not a medical emergency and they've recommended he see his GP. I spoke to him before he got into work and told him to pick up some aspirin, he may have listened but I'm not holding my breath.

Noname I'm so sorry about your husband and huge apologies if this thread has upset you.

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nonamehere · 18/04/2017 10:20

Thank you - some years have passed, so now I can use my experience to warn others, in the hope that they will be more bossy than I was. I didn't intend to add to your worry, just encourage you to take the initiative if he won't do it himself.

Whitegrenache · 18/04/2017 10:26

111 are being negligent. Chest pain, sweating and arm pain/tingling is classic ACS symptoms. Get him to hospital today. Demand an ECG and troponin blood test.

JorahsMissus · 18/04/2017 10:45

I would ring/text him and tell him if he doesn't get straight to a GP/walk in center etc after his meeting then you will ring an ambulance to his work for him. This isn't something to mess around with.

Mrscog · 18/04/2017 13:19

Hope it all works out steggers and it was just indigestion

hollyisalovelyname · 18/04/2017 14:33

Hope all ok OP

Florida28 · 18/04/2017 14:38

Hope he's doing OK, I'd tell him to meet you at A&E or not bother coming home (not that you seriously mean it!!) What is it with Men & their health, they're so flippant with the serious stuff but totally OTT with a sniffle Angry

BitOutOfPractice · 18/04/2017 14:38

Oh god what a worry :(

Hope he's OK

DartmoorDoughnut · 18/04/2017 17:42

Hope he's ok now

Pariswhenitdrizzles · 18/04/2017 17:47

Hope your husband is ok OP Flowers

Musicaltheatremum · 18/04/2017 17:47

111 are crazy. That is not the correct advice (I despair at them) If he is not in pain now that doesn't mean he hasn't had a heart attack already I which case he needs admitting and bloods and ECG to establish if there has been any damage to the heart and possibly an angiogram to see if any blocked arteries. The ideal situation these days is to call an ambulance when in pain so that emergency angiogram can be done and arteries unblocked ASAP to prevent longer term damage to the heart muscle.
This could have been awful indigestion but if I saw someone with that history they would be straight down to the shiny white building pronto!
Please get him to go to the emergency department as soon as possible.

Birdsbeesandtrees · 18/04/2017 17:49

He absolutely must go to hospital ! ask him how he thinks you would feel if he dies ?

My mums neighbour did this - went to the GP in the end who called an ambulance. Still the stupid man wanted to drive himself to hospital.

He had indeed had a heart attack. He was extremely lucky and lived.

Original poster
Steggers123 · 18/04/2017 18:28

Husband had a meeting, then did a full day at work and has now given in to my badgering and gone to the walk in centre. His blood pressure is a little high given he is on blood pressure tablets (148/100) and he's now waiting for an ecg to be done.

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ReallyExhaustedLlama · 18/04/2017 19:14

Glad he's getting checked out Steggers. Hope he's ok.

Musicaltheatremum · 18/04/2017 19:25

Even if his ECG is normal he still needs a troponin level done so if he is only at the walk in clinic he needs still to be sent to the medical team. Pleas don't let them send him home just because the ECG is normal. (I have seen many patients caught out by this, fewer now but it still happens. All a normal ECG means is that there is not enough damage to the heart muscle to show up but he could have had what's called an NSTEMI (which didn't exist when I was a cardiology registrar many years ago).

Original poster
Steggers123 · 18/04/2017 20:08

Musical he's just got back ecg was normal, so doctor thinks he had stonking indigestion. He didn't seem concerned about the intermittent swelling of his hands, he recommended he sees his own gp regarding his blood pressure, he's currently taking propranolol.

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ImperialBlether · 18/04/2017 20:10

But indigestion doesn't make you sweat a lot!

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