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To put this on notice board....

38 replies

WoopWoop200 · 14/04/2017 08:56

Posted before about neighbours being abusive when we asked them to clean up after their dog, even though we'd been cleaning it up for nearly a year.
Same neighbours are expecting us to sort out the broken communal washing line.
Our neighbours usually come to us about these things as we are happy to sort stuff out and if we can't i let management company know... we honestly don't mind and are happy to sort stuff out if we can. DH is handy with these sort of things and it's easier than waiting for someone to come out, inspect, then decide, then actually fix......We'd do it if we had a house so i don't see why we wouldn't in a block of flats. If that makes sense.
So the note is to explain why we won't be doing anything anymore whilst giving the bullies the middle finger......
Should i put it up or not?

To put this on notice board....
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BeyondThePage · 14/04/2017 09:36

no, don't put it up - would get you your windows broken round here!!

indigox · 14/04/2017 09:36

You're just inviting more drama and negative attention with the note.

NotYoda · 14/04/2017 09:37

It's good that you are venting on here, and I don't blame you. They are taking advantage of your good nature, which is always annoying. You need to do what's reasonable and fair now because they've shown they don't respect 'nice'. Do it by the book and contact Management Company. You can't change people.

PoorYorick · 14/04/2017 09:37

I know you've been wronged, but it comes over as passive aggressive and will just invite more trouble. Don't bother.

CauliflowerSqueeze · 14/04/2017 09:41

What you want them to say is "Oh goodness, poor Woopwoop, I must pop round with some chocolates to say thank you and be more appreciative from now on".
It will never happen.

WoopWoop200 · 14/04/2017 09:43

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I'm finding it hard to judge the marbles situation at the moment lol hence why i needed a reality check on the note.

I don't like bullies and know the note would infuriate them.

Besides them, our other neighbours like us. We chat and help each other out. Which is ideal in communal living.

We did report the dog mess as it was at the entry way where our front door is. Council can't do anything as it's private property. Management company tried to ignore it but i went legal on them as i know our lease very well. Still waiting for an answer..

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CardinalCat · 14/04/2017 09:49

That's a really odd note, please don't put it up!

Call the management company, and disengage.

WoopWoop200 · 14/04/2017 09:49

I know I sound like a d*ck when i say this but we genuinely don't look for thanks when we do stuff.
Suppose i did just need a vent.
Thank you everyone for listening.
Note will not be put on notice board. If anyone asks then i will just explain why we won't be doing things in communal areas. Still happy to help out individuals though.

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PoorYorick · 14/04/2017 09:49

The problem with the note is that it comes across as getting involved only to get your oar in and tell people what you think of them, rather than anything constructive.

I definitely get the temptation...you have been treated abominably and I would be feel exactly the same. But people outside of the dispute don't have the same investment and will just see it as a bit of passive aggressive stirring that isn't even intended to get anything done. And the bullying neighbours will have an absolute field day with it.

You don't need this crap when you're heavily pregnant.

icelollycraving · 14/04/2017 09:50

The thing is I don't think it'll infuriate them. I think it'll amuse them.

Serialweightwatcher · 14/04/2017 09:55

Do you use the washing line? If so, just get it done and then put a note to the effect that you did it to help others ... let the bullies look like the idiots which they already will do

BertsBlanket · 14/04/2017 10:17

If you want to 'put the finger up to them' then don't change your behaviour at all. Keep fixing things (only if you actually want to!) and ignore them completely.

Stay happy and forget about them, except for dealing appropriately with any specific issues such as the dog mess. Don't afford them any of the angry headspace them have reserved for you - it's much better revenge and it has the added bonus of not eating you up inside and turning you bitter (like them)!

TheSnowFairy · 14/04/2017 10:18

No - especially as you've headed it 'washung line'!

Don't put anything up publicly - fix stuff or don't, your call and no explanation needed.

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