To Expect P to see i also get Tired!!!!!!!!

[kitty17]

Maybe im wrong in this???. My P works hard, he has a demanding job leaves 7.15am every morning and comes back anytime from 6pm till 9pm, I understand he will be tired M-F, but ok he should try being at home with his DS, He gets away for around 10/12hrs daily, while im here 24/7....Dont get me wrong I love DS to bits, but tonight P comes in and says im off out for a drink I've had a bad few days!!!!. Yeah.. ok then, Off you go, i've only been here all week chocked with the cold and DS teething.!!. I've had a great week, NOT!!!!!. I cant just drop everything and go cause Ive had a bad few day's. I wish!!!!. Am i being unreasonable here in wanting time to spend with him and Ds. Ds misses his dad when he is working late, but getting P to see this is like hitting a brick wall at times...Time to myself would be good... I think im just having a really bad day and need to let of steam... thanks for reading this.... let me know what you think......im moaning I know but sometimes it's good to get it off your chest.

he's an arse

talk to him tomorrow

or better still piss off for the day and leave him in charge

You both need to be able to let off steam and have a rest.
I think it is wrong of him just to tell you that he's going, he should ask you whether you're ok with it, that's called respect.
I think you are right to be angry. Hope you get something sorted.

Ive arranged to take Ds with me tomorrow to my sisters, however im getting a break as getting hair done, so he is staying with his Auntie for a couple of hours..... He will be all cuddly when he comes in...
Thats it i've made my mind up, Im having a girl night out, will have to call round a few girls and arrange this.... see how he likes it as will spring it on him on Friday night when he gets home...TIRED....

He will feel ill tomorrow, so no point in talking to him then, will have to wait till sunday, Yeah it would have been nice to be asked, not told.......

aww, age old debate..... perhaps you should also both go out together as well and come up with a way of sharing responsibilites during the week, even if he cooks a meal once a week its nice, I know i cherish a really long soak in the bath without being interrupted

kitty, I'm in the same boat as you with a dh who works all hours and I'm a SAHM. That's the choice I made and I love it but at the same time, it is exhausting!

Up until recently this did cause problems between us but we sat down and had a chat and as a result every couple of weeks dh will take ds to his mother's for the day so I get a rest. Could/would your p do this? Perhaps if you could get a babysitter and go out for the night, discuss it over a couple of drinks would he be more open to the idea?

hth - you're not alone in this, I'm sure there are a great many mothers having the same issues.

Have a good time at the hairdressers

Hi Guys, thanks for all the feedback.
Well I was right he was ill on Saturday, but come 4.30 he turned round to me and asked me if i wanted to go out for dinner and the pictures, he had arranged for his mum to watch the little one for a few hours. Dinner was lovely and i aired my views, to which he has taken on board, so hopefully he will help me out a bit more, he did say he wanted a whole day just him and the wee one, so i have gladly said on you go to that, so im going to have a girly day out,.. soon i hope (Money depending). We do sit and chat in the house, but not as much as we used to, but again we are going to try to get back to it. Thanks again for your views it was agreat help.....

PS - Maybe the new hairdo made him think!!! As he really likes it!!!!!! Like i said Saturday night was great......lol

Update..... Im going out Friday night with the girls and P is paying for it, he has just called and said to get on the phone and get the girls arranged, so I have.... roll on tomorrow night....
He has taken out conversation on board and there has been an improvement during the week. lets hope it stays that way....