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bandstand · 09/03/2007 21:16

she babysits a couple of days per week, says I will make a meal for the children and leave enough for you so you don't have to cook. A couple of times there has hardley been enough left, I give majority to DH and what is left, (less than dc had) to myself. i said I just give the dc more sauce as we need our food. But the children have been at school all day and you don't need feeding up! she says, looking at my stomach!

If I cook the same meal, I can make it stretch betwen the 5 of us

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moondog · 09/03/2007 21:17

yOU ARE COMPLAINING BECASUE she doesn't make enough food despite the fact she is watching your kids?

Thank yer lucky stars she is there at all I say.


Aloha · 09/03/2007 21:20

Um, so she's babysitting and cooking and you are complaining???


scatterbrain · 09/03/2007 21:22

Sorry - agree with the others - not a lot to suffer in exchange for the huge favour she is doing you !! Just have some toast afterwards if you're still hungry fgs !


mytwopenceworth · 09/03/2007 21:23

are you complaining because she wastes food or because she gives the children a larger portion than you would like? either way, option one is to cook yourself, option 2 is to ask her to be lest wasteful/dish out smaller portions.

be careful how you word it in case she tells you to blow it out your arse!!


colditz · 09/03/2007 21:24

Do they eat the food they are given?


fireflyfairy2 · 09/03/2007 21:27

Do you give your kids more sauce & less food??

Come on, it would take you ten minutes to dish up scrambled egg & toast for you & dh.


MrsSpoon · 09/03/2007 21:30

I am not understanding this?


bandstand · 09/03/2007 21:30

but i dont want scrambled bloody eggs, i want caserolle too!

i guess the answer is i am being unreasonable, yes i know.

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fireflyfairy2 · 09/03/2007 21:31

Then make it


Aloha · 09/03/2007 21:31

And why are you giving everything that is left to your husband??? That is your choice, but IMO a silly one.


scatterbrain · 09/03/2007 21:33

Why don't you ask her to dish it all up onto your plates so she can be sure you have each got enough - maybe she isn't very good at judging how much is left in the pot iyswim ? You could get some plastic dome things to put over yours and dh's and warm them through when you are ready !!!


bandstand · 09/03/2007 21:35

good idea scatterbrain. i have to do that too sometimes if someone is not at home

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Loshad · 09/03/2007 21:45

maybe you need to provide more raw ingredients, if your dc are easting what they are given then probably it't time to increase the portion sizes. Depends on the ages of your dc's as well, I always eat less than 3 of mine - they need the grub, i really don't


OldieMum · 09/03/2007 21:47

Agree with Loshad - just give more ingredients. Can't see what the problem is.


ssd · 09/03/2007 21:49

bandstand THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS and make your own bloody dinner


ComeOVeneer · 09/03/2007 21:54

Sorry, as I understand it you are telling her to give the children less food so that you have as much as you want? If they are eating it, that is the size portion they need, you simply need to provide more food for her to cook.


happybiggirl · 09/03/2007 21:54

Message withdrawn


divamumplus · 09/03/2007 21:59

oh you are so unreasonable
you are acting like child, i should cry and ask for more casserolle
i think you are lukcy to have your mum babysit and cook, just imagine you got to pay for babysitter without her, no meal no fuss


joanna4 · 09/03/2007 22:00

Crikey I would love someone to sit my kids and cook a meal for me too it woould be a real treat.I have been on courses this week from work and have found myself having to make 2 days meals on one night so we have something ready to reheat when I do get in.
The slow cooker idea is a good one she might be making the food cos she might not be wanting the kids to wait for you to come in I am sure she only has your best intrests at heart appreciate her more before she is gone you only get one mother.


Pixiefish · 09/03/2007 22:03

I would give my dd the food if she needed it and would starve myslef if that was the choice. (ie if there wasn't enough food to go round) So yes you are bing unreasonable sorry


kimi · 09/03/2007 22:14

I just give the dc more sauce as we need our food.

They are growing children THEY need to be fed


hillary · 09/03/2007 22:20

Oh my you need a reality check!

Its not about you anymore its about your children they come first and you get whats left! How selfish you sound, I'm shocked!

You really need to wake up and smell the coffee, your mum babysits for you a couple of days a week and cooks the dinner for you all! I bet she pays for the food too, BE BLOODY GRATEFUL!


bandstand · 09/03/2007 22:33

no it is in our house, with our food.

somebody said the problem might be in the raw ingrediants.
more needed.
yup, i think i will go with that, and other helpful suggestions and ignore RUDE SHOUTING ones

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colditz · 09/03/2007 22:46

Right, you can't scimp of a child's meal to suit an adult. it's wrong. it's just wrong.

This isn't a shouty angry post, but it goes a way to explaining the shouty ones. It's ok making it stretch - but as their parents, you and your DH should be prepared to eat less, not to makee your childrens portions look bigger with sauce because you want to eat your fill. It's a social taboo to eat while your children are hungry, you must have known that when you posted?


Skribble · 09/03/2007 22:54

I would suggest she just makes for herself and the kids and that you will get your own if it it such a problem. She must be giving the kids what she thinks is the right kind or portion.

If my MIL is making dinner and I am late in she plates mine when dishing up everyones, maybe it is easier to judge quantities, but I would never suggest she did it another way to suit me.

I have to agree thank her most graciously for her babysitting services and make your own dinner, with what ever excuse you feel won't upset her.

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