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AIBU?

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To be p'eed off

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Andysgirl15 · 12/04/2017 17:47

I'll try and make this as short as possible.

Anyway for the last 6/7 month me and OH have had groups of teenagers hanging outside our property every night and I mean every night. I wouldn't mind usually but there are anything from 6-20 of them and they are really noisy. We live in a maisonette which is accessed by outside steps which are quite 'hidden' but they are also at the side of a shop which the teenagers love as they can climb onto the roof of it. They sit there smoking, taking drugs, ahem having Sex, drinking, plotting to beat people up and the list goes on. My DD bedroom backs onto the steps and she's only 2 but she likes to stand on her bed and look out the window which is where I'm assuming she picked up spitting from, watching them. She's learnt swear words from them and I know she can hear them as me and DP can. I've tried being nasty and nice, honestly the last time I was nice they threw eggs at my windows, they threw a full can of pop at my door 2 seconds after I shut it and at the time I was 39 weeks pregnant with DS, they have even thrown glass bottles at my windows.

I really am at my wits end, I called the council and fuck all was done, police the same. All the council did was install a camera about 2 football field sizes away from my house like that is going to catch anything, I've applied to move but was put in the lowest band so I'm stuck here for years. Me and OH work hard to provide a decent life for our children and we have to put up with this. I feel really intimidated, I won't go out without DP and DD can't play in the garden as I'm frightened they will throw something that could seriously injure her. There must be something else i can do??? Legally or by myself

I really need some insight here

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Meekonsandwich · 12/04/2017 19:14

Look at spikes or anti vandal paint for the roof the council will fit it for free and I'm sure who's ever roof it is will be pleasedand maybe even get it themselves as it can'tbe good food the roof, and if one falls through they could sue.

maybe set off an alarm? Car alarm maybe? They might annoy them enough to go and if it happens every time they're there they might leave?

SwanneeKazoo · 12/04/2017 19:17

complain to the councillor for your ward (you can get the name from your council's website. If no joy, go to your local paper - they love this sort of thing.

SantanicoPandemonium · 12/04/2017 19:30

I know you said you don't want the expense of buying cameras, but you can get some pretty cheap ones and it would help if you could show the council and the coop just how bad the behaviour is. I bought an Ouvis one on amazon for £44 and it's a good quality picture and has night vision - if you aimed that out of a window you'd be able to get some evidence to back you up.

greeeen · 12/04/2017 19:51

I would definitely be taking photos to the school if it were me.

NabobsFromNobHill · 12/04/2017 19:54

we thought why should we fork out for it when the council and police should be doing something

It's your life you say they are ruining, you can't expect everyone else to fix it if you won't do anything for yourselves.

Wando1986 · 12/04/2017 19:56

Ask the shop to cover the roof in anti vandal paint as you've seen the teenagers try and damage the roofing.

DJBaggySmalls · 12/04/2017 19:56

Stink bombs and a dab of neatJeyes fluid on the roof. You have to put up with the smell but, mer.

www.amazon.co.uk/Stink-Bombs-3-per-box/dp/B000P4GQOA?tag=mumsnetforum-21

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Andysgirl15 · 12/04/2017 21:42

Nabobs that was a little insensitive. It's not just my life it's the local businesses and 9 other houses along my row. They are all council properties therefore if the council want to protect THEIR properties then they should be the ones footing the bill. Fair enough if it was my own bought property then I would. But why should I pay out of my own pocket to do the council and police's job, isn't that what I pay council tax for 🤔🤔. If parents actually gave a lil shit where their kids where on an evening and reined them in a bit I wouldn't have this problem. But no, they would rather sit at home supping white star with a spliff watching jeremy kyle with their 19 kids while their teenagers are out terrorising other people 😠

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Andysgirl15 · 12/04/2017 21:47

And I have tried doing something, want to know what happened, I got called a slag bhf a 14 yr old in front of DD who's 2, my partner got offered out for a fight and my windows gots egged. You know what Nabobs you sound awfully like one of the jeremy kyle rejects I just mentioned. I'm guessing you were a tearaway teenager so you gotta cut today's teenagers some slack as u were once like that and don't want to start hurting some 'peeps' feelings. Respect and all that yeah. FML 😒😒

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notanurse2017 · 12/04/2017 21:47

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Andysgirl15 · 12/04/2017 21:56

The thing is though the house I live in is in a highly sought after area. Houses in my area very rarely come up for offer. Everyone wants to be where I live and then I get shit like this, I really don't understand. I was here for 2 years and nothing it was lovely and peaceful and now it's teenagers every night I just don't understand where they have come from and why

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gammaraystar · 12/04/2017 22:05

Wow! I felt bad for you until your last 2 replies!!! You sound a bit JK yourself now to be honest.

Hidingtonothing · 12/04/2017 22:42

Maybe if the area is sought after you might have some luck with the exchange register if you just sit tight a little longer. Still think your MP is the way to go, you need someone with some clout to fight your corner with the police and council. Try and get the other residents and shop owners to contact the MP too, it's their job to help their constituents with exactly this kind of situation.

purpleleotard · 12/04/2017 22:47

What about one of those ultra sound devices that only the young can hear?
Sometimes used in shopping malls to deter gangs from congregating.

NotStoppedAllDay · 12/04/2017 22:52

I was also sympathetic with a few solutions to offer!

But after that reply, I think I won't bother!

Stoneagemum · 12/04/2017 23:08

My old home town had an unusual solution, they played country n western & opera where the teens hung out, result the teens moved to the park where lowish level music could not be heard

Madwoman5 · 13/04/2017 00:41

Perhaps a group of you can club together to buy a mosquito kit? You may need to move your child elsewhere in the flat whilst it is doing its thing though...

LouKout · 13/04/2017 00:46

Get a mosquito. It will work quickly and be unpleasant for the selfish sods too

Chloe84 · 13/04/2017 06:36

if the council want to protect THEIR properties then they should be the ones footing the bill. Fair enough if it was my own bought property then I would. But why should I pay out of my own pocket to do the council and police's job

But they're not damaging your property, are they?

Private tenants don't have the luxury of being able to call the council when teens are causing a nuisance.

You know what Nabobs you sound awfully like one of the jeremy kyle rejects I just mentioned. I'm guessing you were a tearaway teenager so you gotta cut today's teenagers some slack as u were once like that and don't want to start hurting some 'peeps' feelings. Respect and all that yeah. FML 😒😒

And you sound like one of those teenagers you're complaining about, OP.

BellyBean · 13/04/2017 14:58

I think nabobs was trying to say that although yes the responsibility might lie with someone else, you say you're at your wits end, it's ruining your life. Sometimes its worth forking out from your own pocket if it's gonna solve the issue.

NabobsFromNobHill · 13/04/2017 15:05

At least somebody understands a basic point!

DJBaggySmalls · 14/04/2017 10:24

If you want them to move you have to convince them its their idea. the easy way to do that is to make the roof unattractive as a place to hang out. Make it stink and they wont sit there any more.

CatsRidingRollercoasters · 14/04/2017 10:47

Yep, I also felt bad for you and was going to offer some advice in terms of approaching the school (I'm a teacher). Having read your replies to Nabob I also won't bother.

For the record though, schools don't immediately and automatically exclude pupils because of complaints made by members of the public. It doesn't work like that.

TimetohittheroadJack · 14/04/2017 12:18

Just open your windows and play classical music. No spend required.

Don't ask them to move, don't shout or ask them to move - instead be super nice, so nice and annoying they want to get way from you.

Collect some dog poos and put them on the stairs?

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Goldenhedgehogs · 14/04/2017 12:35

I agree your comments about teens was out of order but my advice would be buy a mobile phone blocker, they are cheap and effective.Teenagers will move on if they can't use their phones 😀 You would need to look into the legalities though as i think mobile phone blockers are restricted in the UK as to where you can use them.

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