Mommy

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Am I the only one who cannot stand being referred to as a mom, mommy or mommie

I am not American

It is spelt MUMMY

I don't know why this annoys me so much but it sets my teeth on edge

I'm midlands and when writing she's my 'mum', but when speaking she's definitely 'mom' it's never occurred to me before that this might be weird!

Only bothers me when London hipsters use it because it's American.

I've never understood why people get so upset about what other people are called by their own children. It seem like a bit of an excuse to snark on the "lower classes" as usual.

Mind you, I also don't understand why people are bothered by what their own kids call them. I can't imagine trying to tell my child what they have to call me. 🤔

I'm Welsh but say mummy for me and to my mum. It's not because I'm posh, it's just what I say. I don't gaf if you find it unacceptable.

DH is Black Country so writes mum/mummy but pronounces mom/mommy.

DS has been taught to say mummy but it sounds a bit too mommy for my liking. Sometimes he calls me mama which is his own creation. I suspect he might hear mammy at nursery as we're in Wales.

I'm mummy or mama. I personally loathe being called mum, mom or ma. I have no idea why mum or mom irritate me so much.

Only bothers me when London hipsters use it because it's American

^^This is what I was getting at from my post, I have a couple of (childless) friends who ask me about being a "mom" and even "happy mommy's day" - definitely not a midlands thing, both from the south east with a definite hipster bent - and I've seen "mommy" cropping up more and more (in London!) which I assumed was down to American influence

As I said previously I had no idea this was a Midlands thing obviously anywhere north of Peterborough I am BVU

I don't think I ever said your kids couldn't call you whatever they want. I said I resent being referred to as a "mommy" by others - I am a "mummy" (young DC)

I don't like mom/mommy and will be honest in that if I click on a thread and the op uses the word mom I'm straight out of there, it just angers me .
Which in itself is hypercritical as I'm mammy (west wales) and lots of people don't like it .

I say mum my dcs call me mom. I'm not bothered tbh.....I could be called a lot worse 😁

Another Midlander. It's Mommy or Mom here.

I'm happy & proud to be a Midlands MOM

Me too

I said I resent being referred to as a "mommy

I resent being called Mummy!! Or Mum

So I get where you are coming from - just the other way round!

If it is sometimes seen as a class rather than a regional thing as a PP said, and for older kids ie eight or nine upwards, and 'Mum' is seen as a bit rough and 'Mummy' is seen as posh, what do ordinary older primary kids typically call their mother?

I don't know any teens who use 'Mummy' though interestingly MIL calls herself Mummy and FIL 'Daddy' when referring to themselves or each other in a conversation with their kids who are all in their mid 40s. I find it a bit cringeworthy. They see themselves as posh (but they want to be more than they are!).

My own father uses his actual name when leaving a voicemail which I suppose might also be seen as strange.

I have five children. My son, who is the oldest called me 'Mummy' until he started prep school. He then announced he would call me 'Mama' instead. He still calls me 'Mama'.

My four daughters all call me 'Mummy'.

When talking about me all my children refer to me as 'Mother'.

I am happy with all of these titles. I think 'Mom' and 'Mommy' would grate, because I consider them to be American and Americanisms unless spoken by Americans are definitely a bit vulgar.

Regional variations such as 'Mam', 'Mum' and 'Mammy' seem fine within those regions, but I would not like my children to give me any of these titles.

As for 'Nanny' (even in its abbreviated forms of Nana and Nan) are absolute abominations unless the person in question is a professional paid to look after children. Under no circumstances in my family would this be an acceptable title for one's grandmother or grandma.

My children (teens) call me mummy and dh daddy. I'm in my 50's and still refer to my parents as mummy and daddy!!

Mummy

As for 'Nanny' (even in its abbreviated forms of Nana and Nan) are absolute abominations unless the person in question is a professional paid to look after children

My nan is 98 years old - grandmother to 9 great grandmother to 14

I'll pass on your best wishes shall I?

I think 'Mom' and 'Mommy' would grate, because I consider them to be American and Americanisms unless spoken by Americans are definitely a bit vulgar.

They are not "Americanisms" just because some Americans use them. There is an original British use as well. In fact, where do you suppose the American use came from?

Also, in New England "mum/mummy" is often used. Maybe that makes "mum/mummy" an Americanism as well.

@HoneyBeeMum1 are you joking or are you just being a snob?

I'm sure that the 99% of the population who don't have a "paid professional" to look after their children can decide for themselves what to call their grandmother.

Are you actually for real?

I say Nanny and get confused by some posts on here because I sometimes assume it's their nanny rather than a childminder!

An ex colleague (approx 38/40 years old) who referred to her mother as 'Mummy' when speaking about her (during lunch breaks etc) always received raised eyebrows. I always thought it sounded like she wanted to sound posh.

I know others who call their mothers 'mama' which above the age of two/three sounds a bit simple minded to me tbh. A relative still refers to his now dead mother as 'mama' (he is in his seventies) and spent the majority of his life in Spain which is where I assumed he picked it up.

A good friend of mine calls hers 'Mother' which to me has religious connotations.

It really is a strange one. Just this week, my three year old, has taken to calling me 'Mom'. To be honest, I do not like it and would prefer to be called Mummy. I suppose that is why the thread title was of interest to me.

As for 'Nanny' (even in its abbreviated forms of Nana and Nan) are absolute abominations unless the person in question is a professional paid to look after children.

You sound like a bundle of joy.

Fortunately I'm frightfully common so no-one would get confused and assume I have paid help, so I'm safe to continue referring to my mom as DD's nanny

There are so many ludicrous and laughable comments on here. ' Nanny or nana are abominations,' 'if you say mummy you need a smack,' 'if you say mum you're common.'

Some people post some crap on here!

Saying mom, mum, or mother has fuck-all to do with class.

Saying mom, mum, or mother has fuck-all to do with class.

That is a complete load of balls.

I was mummy when DS's were tiny, then Mum, then 'grunt' or 'oy' in their teens, now I get an affectionate mam, mum or ma depending on the context

Proud Black Country girl here, I don't know anyone who uses anything other than mom (mommy for young children). We say and write mom, to rhyme with Tom. 'Mum' sounds yampy to my ears.

Yes you're right @billsykesdog, people who claim whether you say mom, mum, or mother is to do with class is speaking a load of balls.

Anyone who thinks it has anything to do with class is an ignoramus.