Commitment

[disconnecteddrifter]

I really love my boyfriend. He is kind, considerate and shows me love in many ways but it bothers me that I don't think he is committed to me. He wants to move in together but doesn't beleive in marriage so I suggested we get a discrete tattoo to show our commitment. He absolutely refuses. Citing reason from his mum won't like it (she wouldn't have to see it) to it's just not his thing. Aibu to think he could get a tattoo as no one but us would see it? I think he's worried about breaking up in the future and this makes me feel he isn't committed.

Look, a relationship is going to be about give and take. I speak to dh 'disrespectfully' all the time, and the world doesn't end in high drama. Relationships can have highs and lows, but for the most part can also be quite mundane...dealing with who puts the bins out or cleans the loo as opposed to hearts and flowers. Tattoos are not some people's thing, and that is fine. Your dp is not an animal to be branded to show your ownership.

I think you need to get a grip, or you will drive him away.

Thinking you vvv young. I wouldnt for anyone.

Oooh god no. Sorry.

Nothing against tattoos but I don't think it's something you can set your heart on for someone else. If he doesn't want a tattoo for any reason you have to suck that one up with good grace.

If the problem is his commitment to you, a tattoo will prove nothing beyond the fact that you wanted him to get it.