Peeved by 'guilt quotes'

[GoodEyebrowDay]

Might be better in 'Relationships' but I'm sick of the 'love your mother, you only get one' type quotes that get shared online/sold in shops.

Being someone's mum does not entitle you to admiration and I shouldn't be made to feel bad for not spending time with my parents because they will die one day.

Back story here is that my mum is a liar, manipulator & although we have a platonic relationship, the older I've gotten & have kids myself the more I realise how pissed off I am at her that she hasn't apologised or acknowledged the shitty things she's done.

More of a rant than I AIBU but she shared one just now and I'm all 😡

Ugh, god yes. I went NC with my "D"M nearly twenty years ago because she was such a special case, and every Mother's Day, all over FB, "Let's celebrate the most wonderful woman who gave BIRTH to you! And conveniently forget about what happened for the next seventeen years of your life." Thanks, but no. Squeezing a baby out does not confer some magical property of wonderfulness on a person. A mother is biological. A mum is emotional. There's a radical difference between those two concepts.

The other I love is when you post about, e.g. MIL being an absolute arsehole and twenty people all leap in to say "You should be grateful you even have one!" "You'll miss her when she's dead." etc. And you know what? I might. But I'll be missing the 5% of the time she's tolerable. Not the 95% of the time she pings my stab-o-meter right up to 11.

I get dirty looks because I don't want to look after my DM
'they took care of us and now its our turn'
Um no they didn't, not all of them.
Plus I didn't chose to move 6 hours away without a backward glance, she did.

It pisses me right off.

I'm waiting for mine to resurface any year soon, MrsDV, complete with all the guilt-trippy "But I took care of you!" lines. She's been drinking herself to death for the past thirty years and, since she's always the victim in everything, now that her health is rapidly deteriorating, she won't hesitate to use anything from the "dying person's wish" to her frailty and sickness as weapons to get compliance.

That'll be a fun chapter in my life.

Yanbu. At all. I hate it too.

I work with kids who have been incredibly let down by their parents, and this pervasive idea that you have to love your mum and that that relationship is the most important one in your life causes them lots of problems, guilt and shame.

I love my mum more than anyone else, but would never post that crap. It's on a par with #feelblessed.

Might start a 3 strike rule. After the third passive aggressive meme about how back in the day kids used to spend the weekend with their parents & now everyone is evil, she gets deleted*

*so in an hour then