I had my DS almost 7 years ago and, being the first grandchild and great grandchild, had a lot of items gifted to us/we bought from new.
After DS outgrew them we stored everything in my parent's loft and, a few years ago, my parents decided to donate some of the items and sell the others second-hand (money was then put in to DS' bank for use when he is older). We managed to donate a lot of clothes to charity and sold things like the cotbed. In the end we had a pram, swinging crib, infant car seat, two older car seats and other bits and bobs left.
At Christmas 2015 a friend from university found herself unexpectedly pregnant after being told she couldn't have children (6 months gone). I let her know that I had these bits and bobs and she could use them if she wanted. She came and collected quite a lot of things including the pram, infant car seat, crib and some toys etc until she managed to get herself sorted.
I then met her a few months later with another friend and she mentioned having all the items in storage in her parents loft, was very thankful for them and it helped a lot. Her parents and PIL had bought a travel system etc that she was now using. She mentioned coming to visit and bringing the items back. That was around Easter 2016.
I'm now due in May this year. Since she found out there have been promises about coming to visit and bring the items to help out, as well as offering some of her own son's clothes as we've pretty much started from scratch again. Friend mentioned visiting at Christmas, February long weekend and then again during these holidays. It gets no further than "oh I'll see when I can get the car" and then nothing. I've offered to visit her but again "I'll see when I'm free" and nothing. I'm not going to see her just to get the items back it would be nice to catch up with her and see her little boy. I have even tried to arrange a coffee or cuppa out, just to see her, but I get the same results. However it would be nice to get the pram and infant car seat back as spares.
I'm starting to get really annoyed about the situation. The minute she needed help I offered and made arrangements, yet she's been fobbing me off for over a year. I feel like it's just all talk now and she doesn't even have the items. Aibu in getting annoyed? Wwyd? Do I just ignore her, move on and forget it? Do I keep pressing the matter?
At this point I'm not even sure about the friendship because she can't seem to be bothered making the effort to meet for a cuppa, never mind this.